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Hi everyone. I havent been on here for a long time after recieving some nasty comments and being called a troll. I am in the process of divorce now and would like to say thankyou to all the people that supported me regardless of what i was going through and Even though i know i was stupid at times.I still have a way to go but at least i know its forward and up from here on in.
I have tried to do this on my own after some people on here made me leave by saying things that upset me when all i wanted was help and support and people to talk to.
The picture i have on my page was one i downloaded of the internet at the time as a profile pic and was given grief over that to. someone said it had been used before but i didnt know that.
I am a normal person who has been through the mill and looked to this site for help as it was the only place i found when i was searching for help.
I met some really nice people here also and miss talking to them.
I will change my profile pic after i have written this.
I dont know if i will stay on the site tho as i dont want to be upset again.
I have been doing really well. I am still on my medication and recieving councilling.
I have tried to do this on my own after some people on here made me leave by saying things that upset me when all i wanted was help and support and people to talk to.
The picture i have on my page was one i downloaded of the internet at the time as a profile pic and was given grief over that to. someone said it had been used before but i didnt know that.
I am a normal person who has been through the mill and looked to this site for help as it was the only place i found when i was searching for help.
I met some really nice people here also and miss talking to them.
I will change my profile pic after i have written this.
I dont know if i will stay on the site tho as i dont want to be upset again.
I have been doing really well. I am still on my medication and recieving councilling.
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Glad to see you are doing well, have been wondering how you are going. End of the day though, nobody \"made\" you leave. i get why you chose to, but part of healing, part of reclaiming life in all its glory, is taking responsibility for our choices. You felt justified in leaving and perhaps it truly was the best choice for you at the time, given what had gone on and how you were feeling - only you can know whether it was the right choice. But either way, it was YOUR choice. The beauty of freedom is we get to make choices, and there is real joy in understanding that we are responsible for those choices. For me, anyway, taking responsibility for my choices has brought a great deal of empowerment - even when those choices were or seemed to be wrong (not saying yours was, just saying I\'ve made some that were).
Do what feels right to you - if that means coming back, great, you will be welcomed at least on the one board I\'m a regular on. If it means coming back in a limited way, ditto. If it means not coming back, then that\'s fine too - it\'s your life to live as you choose. Scary, but wonderful at the same time.
Take good care of you, whatever you decide to do. But always remember that those who have never experienced abuse, often don\'t understand some of the stuff we do, some of the choices we make, when in the thick of it. But that\'s their problem, not yours.
Hi, needafriend! I\'m glad you came back and hope that you don\'t have such an experience here again. (I saw those comments and they were truly awful.) I have wondered what happened with you in the last few months, especially as your husband was really giving you a hard time. Welcome back and I hope you get the support you need!
I do remember the horrible times you went then w your husband. The stalking the lying. And it was terrible that you were called a troll. I followed your story and I felt so horrible that you were treated that way by some.
As they said, it\'s Your life. Claim it. Make your choices. And if ppl say things that are upsetting and trigger you, ignore them/block them. And continue on with your healing.
Hugs,
xo
I remember! I mostly followed you on the infidelity group. I\'m happy to hear that the divorce is progressing on. I didn\'t know that those things were being said about you :c
Any-who I wish nothing but healthy relationships for us!!
I\'m so glad you decided to come back and claim your rightful place here! As in real life, online life is filled w/all kinds of people - some nice and sadly, some not so. The cool thing about online is we can \'ignore\' those who are not so nice. My therapist has a saying that I\'m adopting. \"What other people think about me is none of my business.\" :-) There\'s a reason for that and when I found out what it is, it has helped me enormously. What people think/judge about others is never about the other person. It\'s about the judgmentalness of that person making the judgment and it\'s usually a reflection of their own internal stuff that they are unable to see about themselves. Maybe not literally, but there is a core issue underlying their judgment and that core issue is about them, not us. Hope that helps.
No one but you gets to decide about what you do or don\'t do and most importantly WHO YOU ARE! Good for you for taking good care of yourself for making choices that take care of you like taking a break from here & getting counseling.
Hello again! I totally remember you, and was so sad when you left... Those were some really nasty comments, and thank goodness you have been able to heal after being subjected to that as well as the abuse you suffered. I am so glad you are freeing yourself from your abuser. Go you, and welcome back! xxx
I\'m new to the P&E group so I don\'t know all the particulars of your situation. I respectfully suggest after all you\'ve been through and all that you\'ve accomplished, if ANYONE, disrepects you on DS, don\'t hesitate to report them as well as put them on ignore. You\'ve been through far to much to allow anyone to abuse you on here where there are good people that do care and will support you, no matter what.
Peace be with you....
mc