Last Friday night someone called here at my parent's home.  Nobody has the private line phone number, but somehow this person had it.  It was late, the young person called and said his name was "Jon" which is the abuser's name, (my husband's name).  He asked for my daughter specifically.  When she got on the phone he said his name and asked her if she remembered what they did in the bathroom.  she said, "no" because first she knew it wasn't her step father Jon and second because her abuse didn't take place in the bathroom.  But whoever this person was, was trying to get my daughter to talk to him and talk about stuff and kept saying over and over again, "it's me, Jon".  she hung up the phone and he didn't call back. It was a blocked number.  So I guess now we've ventured in to the stage where people who are supporting my soon to be x husband are now calling my daughter to harrass her.  How nice people are.  We're not going through enough already, but now we have entered in to this new faze of this hell.  All the while the DA has stupid questions for me that yesterday I finally answered.  She is the one who has all of that on tape and yet she had a detective call me to ask me questions about it.  I yelled at him that she is the one who has all of it on tape and she should listen to her taped evidence instead of calling me.  He called me back to say, "you're right, she does have it all on tape, I don't know why she is asking these questions, she must not realize she has it all on tape".  So how much longer before I finally give up?  That is the question of the day.  sometimes I want to take my kids and run and hide from all of it.  How much more can we take?

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All I can say is What nice people there are out there,So sick. Im really sorry you are having to endure this and especiaally your daughter. I will never understand how people can behave this way. If you want to talk im here
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I get so mad at those kind of people. Here you are trying to procets your daughter, do everything you possibly can, and they don\'t let you. The whole system is messed up, that\'s for sure.
I am very sorry you are having to go through all this crap. That is just not right.
But know you are an amazing mother to your daughter. She is so lucky to have you.
Just the fact that you took her side, and are doing everything in your power to protect her speaks volumes.
When I told my biological mother about what my dad was doing, she told me it was my job to make him happy.
So I\"m proud of you for what you are doing. I know it is so very hard on you and your daughter. But the two of you will get throught this.
hugs
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well i dont blame you for wanting to run and hide from all this but I know you wont.you will stand remember the Tom Petty song I wont back down ...thats you motherduck ...stay strong and fight for you child..they have got to some day take this to court....hugs xo
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Wow. that phone call was weird. Did it sound like an adult? that\'s pathetic either way. Harassing phone calls are a pain - i had some about 7 yrs ago from an obsessive ex-mistake & there wasn\'t much i was able to do about it. Please don\'t give up. You are so strong & you will all make it through this!
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stay strong in the end your daughter will look back at your support and love......
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Jeez. You have a lot on your plate.