Day 93:
Been up and down. Crisis is sort of over, she’s allowed me to delay my departure for a few days and has started her new job while I’ve been moving in. We had sex on day 93, which was good, but I think it was bad news for her (she initiated, as I’d been careful to respect her wish to not push).
Discovered the Enneagram based on advice from new shrink; wish I’d found her ages ago.
This helps me a lot. I’m clearly a 7, and she’s clearly a 6.
Type Seven In Brief
Sevens are extroverted, optimistic, versatile, and spontaneous. Playful, high-spirited, and practical, they can also misapply their many talents, becoming over- extended, scattered, and undisciplined. They constantly seek new and exciting experiences, but can become distracted and exhausted by staying on the go. They typically have problems with impatience and impulsiveness. At Their Best: they focus their talents on worthwhile goals, becoming appreciative, joyous, and satisfied.
Basic Fear: Of being trapped and in pain Basic Desire: To be satisfied and content—to have their needs fulfilled Enneagram Seven with a Six-Wing: “The Entertainer” Enneagram Seven with an Eight-Wing: “The Realist”
Type Six In Brief
Type Sixes are committed, security-oriented types. Sixes are reliable, hard-working, responsible, and trustworthy. Excellent “troubleshooters,” they foresee problems and foster cooperation, but can also become defensive, evasive, and anxious—running on stress while complaining about it. They can be cautious and indecisive, but also reactive, defiant and rebellious. They typically have problems with self-doubt and suspicion. At their best: internally stable and self-reliant, courageously championing themselves and others.
Basic Fear: Of being without support and guidance Basic Desire: To have security and support Enneagram Six with a Five-Wing: “The Defender” Enneagram Six with a Seven-Wing: “The Buddy”
Discovered the Enneagram based on advice from new shrink; wish I’d found her ages ago.
This helps me a lot. I’m clearly a 7, and she’s clearly a 6.
Type Seven In Brief
Sevens are extroverted, optimistic, versatile, and spontaneous. Playful, high-spirited, and practical, they can also misapply their many talents, becoming over- extended, scattered, and undisciplined. They constantly seek new and exciting experiences, but can become distracted and exhausted by staying on the go. They typically have problems with impatience and impulsiveness. At Their Best: they focus their talents on worthwhile goals, becoming appreciative, joyous, and satisfied.
Basic Fear: Of being trapped and in pain Basic Desire: To be satisfied and content—to have their needs fulfilled Enneagram Seven with a Six-Wing: “The Entertainer” Enneagram Seven with an Eight-Wing: “The Realist”
Type Six In Brief
Type Sixes are committed, security-oriented types. Sixes are reliable, hard-working, responsible, and trustworthy. Excellent “troubleshooters,” they foresee problems and foster cooperation, but can also become defensive, evasive, and anxious—running on stress while complaining about it. They can be cautious and indecisive, but also reactive, defiant and rebellious. They typically have problems with self-doubt and suspicion. At their best: internally stable and self-reliant, courageously championing themselves and others.
Basic Fear: Of being without support and guidance Basic Desire: To have security and support Enneagram Six with a Five-Wing: “The Defender” Enneagram Six with a Seven-Wing: “The Buddy”
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