Did a little cliff-diving last night..

Talking to him and making plans to spend some time together..discussed the what do we call each other dilema. His suggestion was that I call him my boyfriend. Haven't had one of those in a while. GF and BF have almost become bad words..the people that some of our spouse's left us for. I'll have to get past that. We had already decided not to date other people..focus on each other and see what happens. So..looks like I have a boyfriend.

Ex-MIL might be going to the beach with my ex and the kids. That should be interesting. His Mother drives him crazy. My guess ( he actually fessed up to this in a way) is that he wants her to go so they can take her car..and her money. His modes of transportation are a work car, a Motorcycle and a 1985 Jeep. They would have to take the Jeep which has been a little unrelaible and, I just found out, broke down one day with the kids in it.  Connor doesn't want to go in the Jeep.

Ex-MIL was with MY Mother yesterday and was talking to her about the invitation. She told my mother that she thinks he wants her to go because she will be taking her wallet with her AND to have a babysitter. She won't..and can't..watch the kids. I have already told him that. She has NEVER watched my kids and she is not capable of it. She has also told him that. Maybe she is beginning to catch a clue about her son.

She and my Mom talked about a few other things yesterday. My ex didn't tell her (of course) that Connor had originally said NO WAY to the beach trip. He didn't tell her that I helped him work that out. She asked my Mom if I had signed the kids up for Soccor and if my ex and I had "worked out" paying for that. Yes..I signed them up. No..he didn't help.

Mentally preparing myself for my ex getting married to the gf. I expect that will happen pretty soon. My ex is tired of living in a basement. The gf has a house..which she bought on her own after she left her husband. Interesting to me..it is a 2 bedroom house. She has a son. No space for my kids in her house. I will have to address that with him. I'll wait for the wedding "announcement". I am as sure as I can be that neither one of them have thought about this. I am also sure that I will not let my kids spend every other weekend sleeping on the floor.

Just one way that she and I are different. Not a chance that I would not have a place in my home..and the rest of my life for that matter..for the children of the man that I "loved".

Makes me wonder what is going to happen between my ex and my kids. Since she signed her divorce agreement he has missed several nights calling them.  He picks them up on Tuesdays for the evening. I told him at the beginning of the summer that they could spend Tuesday nights with him..until school starts. He has kept them 1 Tuesday night.  He gets them 4 nights a month. Must be enough for him.  He is lucky enough to have an ex-wife who, even under the circumstances, will let him have free access to his kids. 1 year later and he has never taken advantage of that.

I keep telling myself that my kids have a home with me and some form of relationship with him and that will be enough. I hope I am right. I also hope that he will, at least, keep getting them every other weekend when the gf is fully in the picture.  I am not feeling optomistic about that. Something to pray about.

Ready to get over hump day. Adult weekend and I have a long list of things to do. Have to get ready for the kids going back to school. Weekends are getting busy...now that I have a boyfriend.