Decided to give the ex MIL a break and sent her some flowers yesterday from me and the boys. Also had them call her and wish her a happy birthday. Have to admit that I got a nudge from my mother. I mentioned possibly doing this about a week ago and she has been after me since. She was proud of me. She reminded me that it was not her that had an affair but that has never been why I was upset with HER..she earned that in her own right. Still...71 and a shortage of people in her life. Decided that we don't have to be best friends but I will try to have a friendly relationship with her.
While the boys were talking to her I started to regret my decision. I could tell from Connors side of the conversation that she talked about him spending the night sometime. Just him. She can't handle 2 at a time. She really can't handle 1 at a time and my kids have NEVER spent the night with her. Connor told her that it would have to be "okay with Mom". Then I heard him talk about nickles and dimes. I asked him later what he was talking about and he told me that she had a new "gambling game". Great. She is not a bad person but she has poor judgement at times. Fine for the kids to go with the ex but not alone. I might have a talk with the ex about reminding her that she needs to discuss things with me before talking to the kids. I am going to have to brace myself for her return. She will be here next week. 
Staying up late at night. Talking on the phone. Navigating a new relationship. It's going very well. I am cautiously optomistic.
Work and romance has kept me from the computer. I need to catch up with everyone. No kids this weekend so that is #1 on my list.
I am going to start working on my TGIF attitude today.
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I\'ve said it before, but your one helluva great person. With all the past history and all, you do what\'s good for someone like your MIL. I wonder if the ex even called her, LOL. I think it\'s her loss as much as his. I hope this new one knows what a great gal he\'s found and takes good care not to screw it up. :)
Have a good day and weekend.
Ditto............you have your head wired on straight friend. And believe it or not..........reading your journals always is uplifting to me.......you have a keen sense of insight, humor, and frankness, that I\'ve yet to find with other people here on DS.
Hope the weekend goes well........my two bottles of wine are sitting in my new kitchen...........waiting for my refrigerator..........will think of you guys when I am sipping a cold one!
Happy Thursday. :)
TGIS Baby!!! Have a good day. And the only decision you have to make is which to take...The red pill or the blue pill...lol...cya