Well, the gf is getting her divorce. A 3 day trial that is scheduled for the end of July. That should be fun for her..lol.I have been thinking about it all day. This is what I have been dreading..her in my kids life. Doing better than I thought. She can't..per final divorce papers be ALONE with my children. They also can't live together. At least not if the kids are going to spend the night. I am very glad that, 1 week after he left, I had the mental abilities that I had to put this stuff in place.
Sometime in July I will tell my ex that he needs to let me know before they meet her so I can talk to the kids about it. I'll tell them that he is thier dad and she is a person that he cares about. They will get no "give her a chance" talks from me.
I am glad that they have had 1 year to get used to us not being together before they have to deal with any of this. Divorce is just the first change with many others to follow. I absolutely HATE IT for them.
I absolutely HATE HIM for putting them in this situation.
He deserves to spend his birthday alone in the basement (she has her son today and can't be with him)
I still think that I did good today. I ate lunch. I have not cried about this. It was going to happen sooner or later. Almost ready to get it over with.
Trying to be optomistic...
Trying not to call him a Rat-Bastard..(gotta love that SC talk!!).. sorry..had to do it!!
Sometime in July I will tell my ex that he needs to let me know before they meet her so I can talk to the kids about it. I'll tell them that he is thier dad and she is a person that he cares about. They will get no "give her a chance" talks from me.
I am glad that they have had 1 year to get used to us not being together before they have to deal with any of this. Divorce is just the first change with many others to follow. I absolutely HATE IT for them.
I absolutely HATE HIM for putting them in this situation.
He deserves to spend his birthday alone in the basement (she has her son today and can't be with him)
I still think that I did good today. I ate lunch. I have not cried about this. It was going to happen sooner or later. Almost ready to get it over with.
Trying to be optomistic...
Trying not to call him a Rat-Bastard..(gotta love that SC talk!!).. sorry..had to do it!!
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Boy, I feel like I\'m ready for Anger Management 502!!
Although I wasn\'t cheated on, I understand your anger over him causing this in the first place...boy do I understand.
Keep working on the optimism. It is the best place to put your energy.
Rooting for ya...
Check this out. STBX\'s GF and her STBX still trying to figure out HOW to get divorce. 1)he\'s not filing or paying-(don\'t blame him)-says he didn\'t and doesn\'t have anyone waiting on him besides, she wants it, she pays for it. But here\'s the funny part. I work in the Circuit Court of their jurisdiction and divorces and other civil cases are what I work on and sit on. So if they file anytime soon, not only will I be the Clerk for their case, LOL, I have full access to their shit-monies earned, names, all the dirt. So GF and my STBX is hoping I get fired or quit. Or move to WV but in WV she has to be a bonafide resident for a year. !! What they don\'t know is that they can request, thru my supv, special consideration--meaning another clerk handles their case and their case will be secured and locked at all times and me having denied access. I truly don\'t want to see it or hear it anyways and have been tempted to tell them to go that route anyways. But then I said, nah, let them suffer some more. If she wants that divorce bad enough, she\'ll file regardless or find a way. She must not love my husband as much as she tells him so.
Kudos to you for thinking of those restrictions. I am thankful for 6 \"extra\" weeks of not meeting the gf, so a year is totally awesome & a reflection of your presence of mind at the time. Hope things breakthrough for you soon.
wow, alot going on. Pray that you stay strong through all, your mom healing and now this stuff with STBX. Am here for you and praying that all settles quickly.
It will be difficult for your boys to meet STBX\'s girlfriend. Be prepared, that\'s all I can say...........my husband introduced kids to her, without my permission, even though it was in the separation agreement, he breached it. If I took him to court on this, it would be $5000.00 to just see my lawyer and to press charges. Sometimes I wonder if I should have. He continues to not have my permission to have our kids over there with OW. Not much I can do, unless I want to go bankrupt or take him & her to court every other week. Its a fused situation, and pray that they don\'t last. (not a positive thought), but do believe in Karma, and if you treat loved ones wrong it will come back on them.
Have a quiet evening, and try to get your glass of wine in soon :)
wonder what has happened to that presence of mind?? I have always been good in a crisis..fall apart later. Some people told me that i was taking my chances acting that fast..might think of things later and have regrets but I have none..that was the time for me. There is no telling what I would come up with now..lol
alot going on. i have to say i feel for you and your children. i am really getting to hate all men. the anger comes because we try to protect our children from anything that may hurt. i truly understand. stay strong
rd1..thanks..I will..and I don\'t hate men.. a few spring to mind but definately not all men..
Good for you to be able to handle this so well. I dread that day happening with my kids. I think this is a big step for them and thankfully, they have you for a mom. I\'m glad your prepared for this and I hope your children will be OK