On to the weekend..
My good mood morning hit a kink early on. Another phone call from school..Reece having a bad day. I didn't have to go and get him this time. Took care of it over the phone. 3rd time this has happened lately. Not sure what is going on with the little guy...
In the spirit of honesty I thought that I would try some on myself. Good mom?? yes. Super mom?? not even close. The foundation is not solid yet.
I still can't seem to get, and keep, the house together. We live in a mess about 1/2 of the time.
I am still in denial about the fact that the yard came with the house. Worse for my neighbors than for me.
I am supposed to read 2 books a night with Reece for school. This happens about 2x a week. I am not going to get any Kindergarten mother of the year awards!!
There have been many times when my own healing has taken priority. This is a tricky one because I know that I have to be okay for them to be okay..but..a little less time on DS and a little more time with them would probably be a good thing!!
I passed by a great old house today. Needs work but has SO much potential. I feel like that old house. Fixing a house would be easier. Just call in the crews...
My good mood morning hit a kink early on. Another phone call from school..Reece having a bad day. I didn't have to go and get him this time. Took care of it over the phone. 3rd time this has happened lately. Not sure what is going on with the little guy...
In the spirit of honesty I thought that I would try some on myself. Good mom?? yes. Super mom?? not even close. The foundation is not solid yet.
I still can't seem to get, and keep, the house together. We live in a mess about 1/2 of the time.
I am still in denial about the fact that the yard came with the house. Worse for my neighbors than for me.
I am supposed to read 2 books a night with Reece for school. This happens about 2x a week. I am not going to get any Kindergarten mother of the year awards!!
There have been many times when my own healing has taken priority. This is a tricky one because I know that I have to be okay for them to be okay..but..a little less time on DS and a little more time with them would probably be a good thing!!
I passed by a great old house today. Needs work but has SO much potential. I feel like that old house. Fixing a house would be easier. Just call in the crews...
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I feel for you and Reece. Its hard being mom and being the child. Who knows we all do our best. Your good at loving your children thats all we can do!
you\'re doing fine. You have to take time to heal, so don\'t feel guilty. I too have felt that I\'ve spent too much time on DS..........but it has helped probably the most out of anything, even more than counselor. Again, hang in there, you are one person with two boys, and having said that. I too have two kids, and some days when all is done, its enough for me to get energy to clean up kitchen, and get a load of laundry done.
Alot of energy going through divorce is sapped by emotions, but you will heal completely and move forward. Reece will be ok, it will take time. The best thing you can do is just to be there for him, and be the stable one.
My son has been completely angry, some days I\'m not sure what type of mood he\'ll be in. I pray that those days, that God gives me the strength to find the right type of patience and words. Sometimes with boys, it seems like they need more emotional support, especially more than my daughter. It appears your son is angry and hurt, and probably very confused by all that has gone on. The kids just need to know that you are not going away, they don\'t always understand the concept of divorce.
My children\'s world was split, their father moved out, and you\'d have to wonder if they fear me leaving too, but I\'d never do that. It is great that you are so involved with them.
If there is still dishes in the sink @ the end of day, leave them, but if your boys go to bed with a full heart, that\'s what really matters! That they are happy and loved, and they are, you are a great mom, don\'t change!
My son has expressed some anger at school and hit some academic bumps in the road. Others can say what they want, but my approach has been to let it all slide. I know he feels bad enough when he messes up - and his mom will just rip into him... so I just hug him, and let him know I care that he\'s having a hard time, and work on getting the real feelings out at home whenever he can.
We even went through a couple of weeks where he would just glare at me - turns out his mom told him that I kicked her out of the house because I didn\'t want her around anymore! What a joke.
And I can really relate to house and yard stuff. Just take your time and go easy on yourself. You can\'t do it all. And healing does take time.
As much as I hate to not see you around ds as much - I can also understand that feeling. There are times when I just want to see what\'s happening in my \"new family\'s\" lives! Then I have to remind myself to live my life first!
Take care. Hope you have a nice weekend ahead.
thanks everyone!! I will be around this weekend..checking in. It is operation get the house together weekend. Kids seem to be on board. Probably because I promised Bowling on Sunday afternoon in return for thier cooperation. Yes.. supermom\'s bribe!!
Do with your yard what I\'m going to do with mine...have it designated as a wildlife refuge...
Then, tonight, after the kids are asleep, go in and sit on the floor and watch them sleep. I do this when I\'m feeling really down about not being Dad of the Year. Fair warning; when I do this I usually start crying, then praying, then after a while I realize it\'s going to be okay. I don\'t have to be perfect. And neither do they. They are learning that I do love them. And I\'m learning that they do love me.
It\'s hard being the adult. I try my best to keep that from them. You love your kids. They know that. Nothing else matters. We are all on the emotional rollercoaster. You will be fine. You\'re doing a great job.
Hey honey you have to bribe them. My bribe to my 13 year old daughter.... she can have friends to sleep over tonight but she has to clean house first! She did.
Listen... you have to take time to heal and take care of you for if you are okay, then your kids will see you are okay and everything else will fall into place.
I sometimes wonder why us ladies put so much on us to be supermoms, superhouse cleaners, etc., etc. I mean there is so much time in the day. Stop being so hard on yourself. My yard is same as yours, but I bet yours looks better.
I agree so much with what everyone has already said... \"you have to make you time\"... this is important... I have just started doing this the past month playing my music and dating and at first I felt guilty, now I find it is helping me with my healing process.
I wish I could come hang with you and sit on your porch I don\'t have a porch, maybe I\'ll take a picture of my back yard (where hubby had the farm stuff growing that he now neglects... while we are in this transition) trust me when you see my yard you will realize yours is beautiful in deed.