Been checking on my DS friends and thinking about how all of you are dealing (so well) with your very difficult situations. Staying sane living with stbx's..long periods of seperation while you try to figure out the best path.. I give you all credit. I didn't have it in me. I gave my ex the chance to work things out( he didn't take it..obviously)and filed for Divorce 1 week later. Not much of a window of opportunity.
Didn't want to sit around and wait to see if my husband liked me or his girlfriend better. Not willing to play "second fiddle" with someone that I had been married to for 13 yrs and had 2 children with.
Ex called me tonight. I figured he would after the other night. Any time I am a little bit more than civil he starts calling again. Tonight he wanted to talk about a mutual friends upcoming surgery. What do I think?? What can he do?? What am I going to do??
In the past when friends were in need we would assist as a team. I have already made arrangements to feed them and babysit. His relationship with them right now is not great and he is lost.
I didn't talk for long. gave him some ideas and told him that I had to go. I still don't see friendship in our future. Still want to tell him to call his gf with this stuff.
Ready for my Friday wine!!
Didn't want to sit around and wait to see if my husband liked me or his girlfriend better. Not willing to play "second fiddle" with someone that I had been married to for 13 yrs and had 2 children with.
Ex called me tonight. I figured he would after the other night. Any time I am a little bit more than civil he starts calling again. Tonight he wanted to talk about a mutual friends upcoming surgery. What do I think?? What can he do?? What am I going to do??
In the past when friends were in need we would assist as a team. I have already made arrangements to feed them and babysit. His relationship with them right now is not great and he is lost.
I didn't talk for long. gave him some ideas and told him that I had to go. I still don't see friendship in our future. Still want to tell him to call his gf with this stuff.
Ready for my Friday wine!!
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You should tell him to call his gf with that stuff, good idea. My stbx remained friends with her x\'s of the past. That always bothered me(insecure?). I imagine she will try to do the same with me. Not sure how far I want something like that to go.
I was talking to lawyers within weeks after mine walked out on me. After seeing a dating profile I was on the phone the next day!!!You can only take so much crap and then you snap..
You are PMS\'ing and you DIDN\'T tell him to call his gf? You are a better woman than me, Che!
At this point I don\'t see friendship either - what my stbx and I had were more like cease fires.
We all have different circumstances. I agree with you, if it was someone else, I would be me or them. Wait a minute, I found she started seeing someone else, maybe that\'s why I\'m pushing now for the divorce. Like I told her, that\'s the straw that broke my heart and slapped me upside the head.
You have every right to tell him to talk to someone else about this. You need to move on and would rather talk with him only concerning the kids. That didn\'t sound right, but you get the point.
Have a happy wine Friday.
I am having a hardtime with friendship although I don\'t want to close the door that one day in the LONG TIME FUTURE maybe when I\'m 75 I can be his friend :-)
You know I sometimes regret holding on so long and trying to get him to see what he has lost and hoping I would win out over the other woman. It has been very hard on me.
I think your path was probably the one I should\'ve taken now that I look back over all the pain I\'ve had.
HUGS>>>>>>
Started to write a long response - but shortened it to - amazing how these guys still rely on us emotionally, but we weren\'t enough to keep them faithful - go figure!
Already Friday night here, had my two drinks, now waiting for sleep.
i should be around for the friday night wine...