Thinking about being a single parent alot lately. Book didn't help. I am not sure if a library of books would help. Being a parent is challenging enough but a single parent?? Add in an ex who does not do his part and does not set a good example..I will steal Holly's grrrr.
I used to look at my boys and see only potential. Not that they don't have potential still but they also have, at thier young ages, something to overcome. I know that I have to help them do this but how is a little challenging.
6 yr old says that I talk "meaner" sometimes. That is probably true. I don't have anyone to back me up and I want them to know that they have to listen to me. Too easy to feel bad for the boys and let them get away with everything. That is my inclination but then I think about them being 16 and not listening to me. Not a happy thought.
A delicate balance between having compassion for them and still making sure that I am raising 2 kids the right way. They are charmers and love batting thier little eyes at me to get what they want. I used to be able to give into that but that was when there was another person here to balance that out.
Flying solo ....
Trying to keep the plane in the air..
I used to look at my boys and see only potential. Not that they don't have potential still but they also have, at thier young ages, something to overcome. I know that I have to help them do this but how is a little challenging.
6 yr old says that I talk "meaner" sometimes. That is probably true. I don't have anyone to back me up and I want them to know that they have to listen to me. Too easy to feel bad for the boys and let them get away with everything. That is my inclination but then I think about them being 16 and not listening to me. Not a happy thought.
A delicate balance between having compassion for them and still making sure that I am raising 2 kids the right way. They are charmers and love batting thier little eyes at me to get what they want. I used to be able to give into that but that was when there was another person here to balance that out.
Flying solo ....
Trying to keep the plane in the air..
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It\'s good that you understand that your most important duty is to raise them boys. You probably do need to be meaner, like you said, no backup. Maybe one day, he will start thinking more about his boys and help out a little more. Or even better, you find someone who will back you up and light your fire.
to add insult to injury.. reece is sick and so I am flying solo with a sick kid and a job that is not symapthetic to this..no more call in\'s.. I did talk my boss into letting me work on saturday to make up for today.. I am not a happy camper right now but I am happy that I don\'t have to send my throwing up child to mom\'s..
God is that the theme of today\'s journal entry. I feel that so much today with my daughter. She was hard on me yesterday about not spending time with her (and I know it was the business trip) but I drop everything to be with her and do a ton of stuff. Dad sees her literally a couple hours a week and god knows what is going to happen when I finally figure out this separation and file for separation.
It\'s not easy being a single parent especially when we never planned on it is it?
HUGS TO YOU WOMAN!
Sorry you\'re going through all this. Remember no parent is perfect and there are many ways to get the job done.
Children need guidelines and even though they sometimes resent the rules, those rules give them security.
We are ALL going through it. I just felt like bitching about it a little today!!