Happy Friday!!! Ex called yesterday to "thank me" for calling him and talking to him about what is going on with the kids. Impossible situation to be in. If I tell him how the kids are REALLY doing it sounds like I am blaming him and trying to make him feel guilty. If I don't then he thinks that all is well with them and his leaving had no impact whatsoever. If he had a brain he would know that it is not possible for them to not be affected but his brain is not functioning at full capasity right now. Seems to me that he HAD to know that his leaving would put me..and by extension the kids..in a financial bind and that there would be some emotional trauma. He keeps telling me that he KNOWS that I will do what is best for the kids. Must be nice to be able to create a mess and KNOW that someone else will clean it up. Kids Karate instuctor was flirting big time yesterday and asked me if I have met anyone yet. He is divorced. Friend of mine is trying HARD to fix me up with the electrition that is working on her new house. She showed him a picture of me and the boys. He is also divorced. Looks like I am back in the game but not sure what to do about it. Dating is easier when you just have yourself to consider. Flower guy is good for ME but not necessarily for my life. Another thing to think about..like I needed another thing to think about!! My ex made the statement the other day that he knows that there will "probably" be a new man in my life. Feeling more and more confident that he is "probably" right!!!
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It\'s not probably, it\'s a certainty you hot mama you. About the kids, tell him the truth, he should know what he has done. He should feel guilty, not you. Who cares if he tries to put the blame back on you. He can\'t take responsibility so he\'s trying to put his guilt on you. Tell him the truth and let him suffer.
Yes, the dating criteria has changed for sure since divorce. Now comes the possibility of step children, and how any new SO will relate to our children. Yuck. Not ready for any of that yet.
New man? Sounds like new men to me!
Not sure how I will handle being back in the game either, but it\'s probably only a few months off. All I know is I don\'t see a need for any guy to meet my kids for a long time! (Have you heard a 3rd grade girl tease? I would never hear the end of it!)
Holly..you will OWN the game!!! I\'m not going to let anyone meet my kids for a long time either. I\'m ready but they are far from it!!!
Thanks for the vote of confidence, Che! I hardly need to own the game, but a peek at the instructions would help! :)
Lady - All I can say is take care of \'you\'. The rules are only about you (and of course your kids). There is no need to do anything you don\'t want to but if there is something that appeals to you -- GO FOR IT! Chris