I've always been a strong believer in the addage "where there is a will there is a way"  and now from my attorney to my counselor to my best friend, i keep hearing there is no way not until you let her go and maybe not even then.  I am so utterly afraid that as a result of my not trying she will never come back,  guess i smothered her out and caused more of a problem than there was, at least that is what my counselor says.   The sun will come out tomorrow,somewhere