I have come to the conclusion that the marraige was no good.  Even before I did what I did.  If he can find someone just three months after I leave him, and then not want to reconcile with me, his wife, then the marraige was over from the start.  I also know now that he did not want to get back with me because then that would have proved me right.  I was onto his game, and he wouldnt be able to play it any more if we got back together.  He would have had to change.  He doesnt like to change.  SO, she can have him.  And all his problems.  I dont know any woman, or man for that matter who would want to stay in a relationship with someone who is so irresponsible and broke!  Good luck to her.  I have my M and couldnt be happier:)