Had a blow up with him today.  I really hate saying this, but I think I hate him!  He is so clueless!  I try and try to explain to him what went wrong, why I left, and its like I am talking to a brick wall!  He only hears what he wants to hear.  Not that I care any more, I really dont.  Its just frusterating, thats all.  I guess him blaming me for eveything, I feel as if I have to defend myself.  You know, from now on, I am not going to do it!  What ever!  He will never change, hasnt yet so far, so why should I waste my breathe and time trying to get him to open his eyes on what went wrong?  I shouldnt!  I know its hard, but I am going to do it.  I left him, and I know why.  That is all that matters.Oh the other thing we fought about was the fact that he wants joint custody and that his lawyer is going to slam me in court.  Let him try!  I know I have the upper hand with this one!