I am in tears since earlier this morning.
One of our daughters horses (Summer) had been sick since a few days, was on penicillin but my husband found her dead this morning.
I really don't know how to handle this, how do I tell Jade.....
I am lost for words, sorry...

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this may not help but we had a farm for years before i got hurt.we had cattle and ponys for our girls.we tried to use it to teach them that sometimes we lose things and people we love,you just have to go and remember them with love.we did funerals for all of the pets.wheels
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Oh, Mck, I am so so sorry........animals are vital parts of familys and their loss sometmes greater than that of a human.
That said, and I do grieve for you, but you have raised a very resiliant young lady, and as wheels said, she will know that we do grieve but also go on living as well. The idea of a memorial event and an item, like a tree, charm for a bracelet etc does so much to help everyone process their feelings. I will rem you all in prayer the next few days/c
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Thanks gf\'s, I really don\'t know how to get through this... Sammy Jade will be home from school at 3:30pm and I\'m still so destruct about this suden lost... How.. :( I have been thinking of a million different senarios in my head, and all I do is start crying at the thought of telling her. Summer was going to be trainned this summer... Jessie, Jade\'s riding horse at this time is getting old, so Summer was next in line to be trainned, now this... We have Spirit next in line, so when Richard and I were talking this morning, we decided to get Spirit to the ranch this weekend, to start trainning. Maybe this will help, but .... I don\'t know. The vet says it was a problem with her stomach...The funeral thing is a good idea, Richard already hired the man with the backo to bury Summer, he left a short while ago. We really didn\'t want our daughter to see her, G-d I didn\'t even dare go see her myself, I want to remember her running with her syblings and mother in the pasture... :( I just took a long breath and somehow I feel a little better having shared this sad time with my friends here at DS. Thanks for the much needed support of all of you whom have wrote sent hugs, ect... Talk to you soon... Mckenzie One day at the time
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I am so sorry to hear about your horse. I was just gonna stop in and say hello and I read your journal and Oh, I\'m sorry. Our pets are our family. You don\'t have to be a hero, you know. If your daughter sees you crying, she\'ll just know that she has a sensitive mom who knows how to love. We used to have major cry fests at our house any time we lost a pet, but we knew we were all grieving together and I didn\'t feel so alone thinking I was the only one taking it hard. We even had a funeral for Bob the Frog. I still remember it. My thoughts are with you and your family. Love, Kathy
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Good evening my darling friends, everything is quiet here tonight, both Sjade and her father are sleeping, and I\'m just now relaxing away reading what went up here at DS today.
I worst is done, we told SJade upon her arrival from school. Her initial reaction was anger, she slammed the door to her room and didn\'t want to talk at all. I knew she would react like this at first....After giving her 5 minutes or so I knocked and entered her room, she just looked at me with sadness in her eyes, and asked what happenned? Those of you who read my journal daily knew she was gone part of the weekend, so she wasn\'t aware that Summer was being treated by the vet, and we thought for sure she would be fine eventually. She was very sorry to have not had the chance to talk with Summer when she was sick. I hugged her and went in the kitchen and saw Richard had punched in to see where the backo guy had burried her, and all the other horses came near Richard, it was so sad.... We are going to do the burial tomorrow.
I tell ya if it wouldn\'t be for this site I would still be in a very deep crisis, thank you all so much for letting vent and the great support you have all given me today.
Nighty, night
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I\'m so sorry for your loss...animals are so precious. In such an awesome way, they touch our lives with such gentle loyalty. Such validation of who we are, not measured by the thoughts of mankind. May you have a blessed gathering for this friend of your family, as you say good bye. I\'m so sorry for the pain that you will all feel. If it helps any, I understand.
God be with you, especially through this.
Your Friend,
Celia