I'm suffering with this love addiction and my object of desire is this J person, and it is quite unfair to project all this obsessing, insecurity, longing onto him.  I have dealt with this since I was a little girl!  It is presenting itself now and it is really overwhelming.  I am grateful the Love Addiction group here is a good source of help I checked out to today. I'm planning to go into the city and go to a meeting and see my sponsor tomorrow. I am trying to keep busy with my meetings so I am socializing so I am not putting all my eggs in one basket with J. He told me Sunday night after we parted ways to stop by and see him at work, which I did.  He had a big smile when he saw me.  He even looked disappointed when I didn't stay long. Again not trying to project my issues onto him as he is awesome and I need some work on myself.