Well I did invite J to the concert of the band he'd told me about, the tickets came to me that night, synchronicity!  It was not easy to ask, and he said when I mentioned I was going a week beforehand he thought I was going to ask him and told his friend he'd probably be going!  I didn't plan it, I just trusted God.  We had such a great time and a lot of fun talking and getting to know eachother and it was platonic but I think with a inkling of more below the surface which is all really exciting I feel part of the universe.  I isolate so when I connect with people it's cool.  The same thing happened Friday at a convention when I went to eat alone and got invited to sit with some people I barely knew from a meeting and ended up having stuff in common with each, which was awesome.  I asked the oltimer Al Anon woman for her # which is growth for me. I was thinking about continuing the inventory assignment the woman from Al Anon gave me who I am taking a "break" from - she got a bit too personal with me.  I do think I still need some inventory on my sis she was helping me.  I wish a woman could help me use the AA book to deal with my stuff as my sponsor isn't exactly by the book.