Things could get a little weird w/ sis as there is a lot of drama going on and spilling over, and w/ her secretiveness it makes it hard to lay all the cards out.  IU guess they're not my cards.  Anyway I guess I need to just try to stay in today, not judge, not try to fix, control or rescue and work my own program and meet my own self care requirements.  She and her live in bf are in the beginning process of going back and forth (I'm assuming his leaving didn't stick) and if he is truly high on heroin and she asked me not to tell mom and her son was staying with us because he punched up the house, it was all just an opportunity for me to try to reach out to him w/ what I know about anger management and stay out of sis's business.  It's so dysfunctional I don't even want to go into it and discuss how crazy it is, which Mom does acknowledge, though she doesn't know the details I know that he may be high.  Anyway he did leave but we suspect he'll be back. I got asked out by a newcomer Tues, a man who relapsed after a few months of sobriety in AA (newcomer defined usually as less than 30 days sober) he asked if I "date newcomers" - I just thanked him for asking me and shared about it at Al Anon.  I don't like having crushes on inappropriate people and it just happens, anyway I guess I tend to judge his appearance as not really a green light for being "Mr Right", but still considered the date which I guess is openmindedness on my part, and saying no or not saying yes is good. I reinstated text msging after nearly 9 months, and my dear young musician friend LC and I texted yesterday and I found it a fun way to communicate. I found out the exbf from last year is living back in my city and wonder if I'll run into him some day. I need to keep up my gym routine and work more on keeping healthy vegetarian diet and try to declutter and keep up my meeting schedules.