According to this book "It's called a breakup because it's broken" (Greg Behrendt) I did the 60 days of no contact "He-tox" with R.   I completed it.  The suggestions in the book and the insight I gained were very helpful.  I am doing this to empower myself to not put up with that self defeating stuff when I let someone mistreat me.  The suggestion was to get a spa treatment after completing it, so I did.  I like going to the hot springs and I treated myself to a body treatment with sugar scrub and eucalyptus wrap with some massage.  They offered outdoor yoga classes there and I did two and they were very nice.  I used the mineral baths and mud bath and I felt very relaxed, but the emotional wounds are not yet healed.  I guess that is ok.  When I did the "he-tox" last year with my ex-bf, I had already dated 3 guys during that time - not very "effective" I guess, to distract myself so much.  This time I don't think I have even flirted. So I am working with a guy P and we have stuff in common.  I needed to use bananas and I made banana nut bread muffins, and I knew it is his favorite, and brougt them in.  I like baking so much and always get compliments I wouldn't mind selling some goods at a farmers market or something (dream big!)  I use "Joy of Cooking" recipes.  Anyway we seem to like eachother a little and there has been some very subtle teasing from the others.  I don't know, I had a dream about him.  I don't have to act on that stuff today, but it can be distracting, I am just not ruled by it like I was in my past.  I know / think he is pretty much an alcoholic at times - I guess that's just the way it is, the people I attract. I came home from my spa day last night, which took a week's paycheck and it used to take just over a day of work's pay (to compare my current income to my past, but I am happier and much less stressed) anyway I came home to dad flaking on our dinner date.  I guess he appreciates I am being nice to him, maybe he sees my effort, and mom is out of town.  I guess neither of us received eachother's messages and it was ok, I felt sad, but I tried to remember he is a (gambling) addict and to not believe his promises.  I agreed to go w/ him tonight.  He showed up an hour late and it was too late, but he was still willing to go, which was nice I guess.  He apologized. I come to work and feel rather bored.  There was work to do, but not much for me, as usual - I am so slow here, while others are busy.  C'est la vie.  I do some of the chakra kundaline yoga techniques one of the yoga teacher's showed me - he invited me back another time to share my energy which he enjoyed.  It was really neat and for months I've wanted to take a class w/ him.  He said to get a year's pass so I could go regularly, and I'd thought earlier how I wished I'd sprung for this while I could afford it, at this pace it will take a few months to save for.  I said I have considered it when I am able. I watched Mama Mia last night.  I miss Greece, having been there in childhood and as a young adult, and I thought that would always be part of my life, but we are pretty estranged from our Greek family, which is sad for me, very.  I think of all places I'd like to go there.

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wow the spa day sounds fabulous! i wuld love to do it someday when the $$ permits. and yoga, is something i have ALWAYS wanted to try, just never have. i found out theres a weekly class in my lil town on thursday evenings i was thinkin about actually TRYING IT this time, instead of \"wishing\" i had. u are such a great inspiration to me. God bless~~~
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I am sure glad you gave yourself the treat to go to the spa...now I am jealous, in a good way :p)...I missed the message therapy and yoga course...I hope I can soon be able to give myself those treats again :)...I was just kidding about the jealous part...

I am really happy for you :).