Today I got a cell phone text message from ex telling me he is going out of state to confront his dad about abuse he remembered after their previous visit, his only amiable visit with him ever, anyway I am learning to detach... I told him to not contact me, he sent me an I Love You text Saturday.  And today the text said he loves me and he wishes we were FRIENDS.  It's like OUCH.  I guess I don't have to take personally that this is the part of me he misses Right Now, it just feels premature and hurtful, this person was my lover for the last year... Anyway I have not contacted him in over 2 weeks since I asked him not to contact me.  It is hard to not remind him he is not respecting my boundaries by contacting me.  Anyway just for today I seek not to invest anymore in this relationship.  The perspective that is coming with the distance apart is too valuble.  I am enjoying the space.  The separation hurts but it is healthier than being with someone who lies to me who I do not trust.  Anyway I used to be quite invested in this type of stuff he is clueing me in on, so anyway I am just glad I don't have to get involved at this point, it is just so hard.  Support of friends, counselor, support groups, coming here, reading, journaling...