I got some perspective here today.  I have strengths to tap into.  I have support.  I have opportunities to make healthy choices.  I don't have to let someone else drag me down.  I don't have to uphold unwritten contracts established in dysfunctional situations.  I have the right to change my mind any time.  In the long road to honoring and accepting my feelings, I can seek out others who do the same for me and themselves.  It is not healthy for me to allow others to discount my feelings, though it is familiar for me to let them.  Oh God!  It is not easy to be vulnerable with my truth and deal with reality and break through the denial.