Well I did talk to my ex and find out he's not eating, talking to anyone or going to meetings or working. I can't save him. We are in contact and he is being sweet, if crazy. Anyway I told him 5 breakups were enough. He wanted a hug I said maybe some other time. I'm proud of myself, so easy to get caught up in anothers feelings and drown and lose my own. I was so tired & short today, I apologized to him. I want to put my best foot forward. I would hate myself if I was mean and turned my back on him and he killed himself. At the same time I don't want to think I can save him. I encouraged him to eat and stop smoking, he's a chain smoker, his poor mind must be nuts (lost 45+ lbs since August). Anyway it makes our breakups seem less significant, I do know we do have loving feelings for eachother (even if they're not expressed as such).
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By not eatting and by smoking he is most certainly killing him self! No! it would not be your own fault if he succeeds. You can all ways call the Crisis hotlines on hear! That is why this site is unique and different.
I have been in the same cycle, breakup, makeup, honeymoon phase, back to normal behaviour, breakup makeup etc. You get the picture. His abuse of himself may be to get your sympathy and make you \'rescue\' him. My ex had this technique down to a fine art. Only counselling and self insight will help him in the long time.