It's tough to hear from exboyfriend, I don't respond 2 days now (after 3 days of responding).  I am feeling sick inside to get a glimpse of the world he assumes he shares with me (I do not share his view and he refuses to acknowlege this).  I'm so grateful for this forum and the helpful feedback, it is lifesaving.  I'm realizing I need to do some reading on emotional abuse.  It's so invisible.  It's part of my upbringing, and I have been living w/ parents a few years now, this is tough these days as I'm home more since the breakup and not attending as many 12 step meetings since he's at the ones I attended most.  God.  I'm having anxiety about other things, normal day to day life responsibilities.  I realize I am safe and protected by God and I am ok.  I just need to continue to stay away.