I'm grateful for this place.  I was contacted by my exboyfriend and my choice was to not respond.  It is still hard.  He seems to be blaming me for him leaving me.  I also found out he's sharing personal things about me at our AA meeting (I'm going other places now).  I got some really good responses here by posting my concern.  This is a risk for me, I'm not really quick to let people advise me or let people in or want my stuff to be public.  Hearing he's sharing personal stuff about me has just let me know I need to disintegrate my ego and learn it is his problem with boundaries, and not get caught up in it.  It is hard to not want to defend myself.  I let God do that. The temp job where I was able to be logged on here (what a godsend!) is over now so I will be back to sporadic use.  I was grateful I was able to log on. Please know what is said here stays with me the rest of the day and truly gives me strength :) I think I'll go soak in some hot springs and mud bath today unless the temp agency calls. Again thanks for your responses and the strength I've needed to change my life.  Just for today.