Ok, it has been a week now since I delivered my baby. At that time that told me it was a BOY. Well the Dr. called yesterday with a preliminary report on the autopsy. It was a GIRL!! I have been grieving for a week over my baby boy that I thought I lost, when it was a baby girl I lost. Not that this changes anything or makes the pain any less. But this nightmare continues!! So baby "Connor" is "Karena". I feel like I am coping a little better each day. Night time, after I put my 2 girls to bed, is my worst time of day. That is when I have time to think. It is so strange. I am surposed to have a baby in 5 months. March 26 was my due date. 
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You\'re in my thoughts....it must be difficult for you to feel like you have to start grieving all over again now that you know your baby was a girl. I\'m glad you found this group - I hope you find some support from all of us.
Man I wish I had found out whether mine was a boy or girl. I am a little jealous of you there. I didn\'t have the test done. I thought it was a whole autopsy or nothing and I opted out ($$).
I know how you must be grieving. Doesn\'t it suck? I feel like I will miss my little guy for the rest of my life. That feeling doesn\'t seem to wear off yet.
Congrats on the girl! I can just picture a little girl baby so cute and all wrapped up. You would have three girls!! Did you want a boy? I think it would be neat either way. I seem prone to having boys and I hope to have 4 or 5 boys and 1 girl. (I am scared of having a girl -- I haven\'t figured out how to be a girl yet myself!)
I\'m sorry you\'re hurting. Hang in there.
Laura
I went through the exact same thing. I thought for sure it was a boy and didn\'t think they were doing the chromosome tests to tell which for sure so we had a name Lucas and everything. Then when I found she was a girl I was in shock. So now she is Amelia.
It\'s been 2 1/2 months for me and I\'m slowly getting better. Rest as much as you can, cry when you need to and talk to friends (like us) as much as possible. Things will slowly get better!!
I\'m so sorry for your loss. I still miss the twins I lost in July and am so sad all the time. I hope you are doing ok and am here to talk anytime. Take care, Heidi