Did anyone here think they KNEW for SURE that their SO would NEVER do something like have an affair with someone?  I just thought I knew for sure! He says he has been talking to this woman over the internet and HAS been for years!!  I have been dealing with this for awhile now and I am now just coming to terms with this whole thing . I havent even been able to THINK about this for a good year. I am feeling less and less hurt now I think - I still feel so betrayed, he was pretty much my best friend ( I thought how can you go wrong with marring your best friend) and now we have no connection really anymore. More like roommates.  I married so young and only had a couple of boyfriends ( all of which were long term -1st was one year 2nd was 3 years, then marriage) so maybe I didnt date enough - I dont know.  He asked me to marry him so soon after we met. Im angry that he decides to LOOK for an affair online and falls for this woman and has this romatic emotional fling (long term fling mind you) and I have no clue. What am I wasting myself here for? I wouldnt be worried about dating again... I had men ask me out alot and my looks havent changed alot over the years...  Im here lonely and hes telling someone else that he loves them.