So my sister has been with her boyfriend for 8 years, and he is basically a waste of valuable human life. He doesn't work, he's a thief (he has stolen cash from my dad and one of my old roommates, but we could never prove it), he is a giant asshole and he's lazy. I honestly don't know what she sees in him...but they've been together for 8 years. The first time she got pregnant was back in '07 and she ended up having an abortion. Then she got pregnant again in '10 and had my niece.
Her loser boyfriend stays home with her all day long and plays video games, then makes my sister spend her hard-earned money as a hairdresser on cigarettes and weed for him. They live in a tiny one bedroom apartment with a giant, ill-trained dog that he just HAD to have. Naturally, my sister thought it would be a great idea to get pregnant again last year. She found out after some abnormal ultrasound results and a CVS that the baby had Down's and she decided to have an abortion. She always swore up and down that all three pregnancies were unplanned, but I don't buy it. Like, really? You were taking birth control religiously and got pregnant THREE times? I'm not buying it.
So imagine my shock when she sends out a mass text message last month announcing that she's pregnant again and due in August.
It's not that I'm jealous. Honestly. I'm jealous of all of my friends when they get pregnant, but not my sister for some reason. It's that I'm quite frankly furious. Enraged. Like, want-to-punch-a-wall-until-all-my-fingers-break enraged. She can barely afford the one bedroom apartment she has, and she has to share that bedroom with her daughter already. Now she's going to put another baby in there? She's already on food stamps and WIC and the Douchebag certainly isn't going to go get a job. She qualified for section 8 housing last time she was pregnant but turned it down because they said her boyfriend couldn't move in with her.
Oh, but on the bright side, they can't get married because he married a girl from Africa for 10k a few years ago and they haven't gotten divorced yet. He spent the 10k in a single day, by the way. Yeah. He's a really great guy.
And she's upset with me now because she's "scared shitless" and I'm not being sensitive enough. I'm sorry...you CHOSE to put yourself in this situation and now you want my PITY? FUCK OFF.
I'm so mad at her right now I can't even see straight. I've invited her over for dinner twice in the past 2 weeks and she's turned me down both times and now she's saying that I'm a horrible sister and that's I'm never there for her and that I "use her" for cutting my husband's hair. WHAT???? Are you kidding??? He used to go to a barber and she complained that she didn't go to him, so she started coming over to cut his hair every few weeks and then we hang out and I make a huge dinner...and now she's saying that I USE HER.
I'm just so pissed off at her right now. Compound that with bad pains I've been having and another period looming right around the corner and I'm just having the worst effing day ever.
Her loser boyfriend stays home with her all day long and plays video games, then makes my sister spend her hard-earned money as a hairdresser on cigarettes and weed for him. They live in a tiny one bedroom apartment with a giant, ill-trained dog that he just HAD to have. Naturally, my sister thought it would be a great idea to get pregnant again last year. She found out after some abnormal ultrasound results and a CVS that the baby had Down's and she decided to have an abortion. She always swore up and down that all three pregnancies were unplanned, but I don't buy it. Like, really? You were taking birth control religiously and got pregnant THREE times? I'm not buying it.
So imagine my shock when she sends out a mass text message last month announcing that she's pregnant again and due in August.
It's not that I'm jealous. Honestly. I'm jealous of all of my friends when they get pregnant, but not my sister for some reason. It's that I'm quite frankly furious. Enraged. Like, want-to-punch-a-wall-until-all-my-fingers-break enraged. She can barely afford the one bedroom apartment she has, and she has to share that bedroom with her daughter already. Now she's going to put another baby in there? She's already on food stamps and WIC and the Douchebag certainly isn't going to go get a job. She qualified for section 8 housing last time she was pregnant but turned it down because they said her boyfriend couldn't move in with her.
Oh, but on the bright side, they can't get married because he married a girl from Africa for 10k a few years ago and they haven't gotten divorced yet. He spent the 10k in a single day, by the way. Yeah. He's a really great guy.
And she's upset with me now because she's "scared shitless" and I'm not being sensitive enough. I'm sorry...you CHOSE to put yourself in this situation and now you want my PITY? FUCK OFF.
I'm so mad at her right now I can't even see straight. I've invited her over for dinner twice in the past 2 weeks and she's turned me down both times and now she's saying that I'm a horrible sister and that's I'm never there for her and that I "use her" for cutting my husband's hair. WHAT???? Are you kidding??? He used to go to a barber and she complained that she didn't go to him, so she started coming over to cut his hair every few weeks and then we hang out and I make a huge dinner...and now she's saying that I USE HER.
I'm just so pissed off at her right now. Compound that with bad pains I've been having and another period looming right around the corner and I'm just having the worst effing day ever.
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ahh hun i am so sorry sometimes i wish we could choose our family, it just sounds like a shitty situation to be in all around... I think that you need to worry about you and your health right now and she shoudl go fend for herself, sounds like she likes to play the victim a lot and thats jus tnot something you need... and as for her loser boyfriend hopefully she will get the hint one day, i just worry he could become abusive?
Oh hun, BIG HUGS! Sometimes the best family are the ones you choose, not the ones you are born with! I can see why you would be so furious with the entire thing, I would be too. It sounds like you are doing everything you can for her right now. If she keeps turning down your invites there is not much you can do. I say have your DH go back to the barber too. You need to focus on you. I hope either the deadbeat bf cleans up his act, or that your sister sees the light and moves on. Sorry you are having to deal with this on top of everything else! Hugs XOXO
you are in a hard spot.....he sure does sound like a loser...and why is it that people who cant look after children have no trouble having them??....makes me so made...i would try do what you can for the little baby that is coming... and try to make her see how bad he is for her.....good luck!...big hugs!