ok, here is the story as to what has been going on here. i didnt want to say anything until trey said it was ok to. over the last several months, trey has declined mentally and his drinking has gotten alot worse. he even recently had 2 blackouts in a weeks time and the last one was pretty ugly. that is why i got my last tattoo. i just needed to feel some pain, you know. it was a design i wanted for quite awhile, so i just went out and got it that night. 2 weeks ago, he discussed with his therapist about going into rehab. he agreed. so this past week, i found him a really good place on the upper east side. it is a psychiatric hospital that has a unit for those dependent on alcohol and drugs. i was told that the morning he is ready, to call admitting to see if there is a bed. when i called this morning, there was none, so we have to try tomorrow. understandably so, he is very nervous about this. not only will he be treated for both issues, it is a nonsmoking place which they would help him with as well. he is also terrified of having panic attacks there. most likely, he would not be allowed to take klonopin, but they assured me not to worry because they do specialize in all psychiatric problems. even though he is nervous as hell, he does want to do this. ultimately it would be much better for him to do this in order to get the help he really needs. it will also be so much better for our marriage which has been affected by all of this. it is going to be a very difficult time for so many reasons including being apart for 30 days. he will be able to call me and i would be able to visit him for an hour each day. so at least we have that. so thats the story. trey does have an account here though he hasnt been on for awhile and i am not sure if he will check it before he goes in...but if anybody here wants to send him some support, i am sure he will truly appreciate it, even if he reads it when he gets back. his id here is treyros. if for whatever reason you cant find him, he is on my friends list.i will keep you all posted. thanks all of you for being there for me.
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I hope everything will work out and he will get the help he needs. I know that will be a difficult time, but i am sure he can do it. He has your support and love and thats all what matters. I am glad he wants the help... People who want to get help are in the half way of the recovery!
My dad has a drinking problem for years and i know how you must feel to live with someone who is basically destroying his life and also the life of others, thought he doesnt do it intentionally. I wish my dad would want help but if he doesnt there is not much to do about.
I also understand that you needed to feel the pain... when my dad gets really drunk he behaves awful and i usually end up cutting. I am glad you did something better.
And i love your tattoos so much!
Good luck to both of you!
mindy... my thoughts and prayers go with him, and are with you. i think this is a wonderful positive step for trey, and for your marriage. i am really proud of both of you for the effort you are puting into making things work. being hospitalized is hard (i\'ve been in psych units, and a recovery center too) but it is worth it! never give up, and lean on us when you need to. here for you always! love ya...
G\'DAMM SISTER, THIS SUCKS, I\'LL SEND MY STRENGTH IN SPIRITS.. IF YA NEED ANYTHING THAT I CAN HELP YA WITH YOU GOT MY NUMBER SISTER!
i\'m proud of you both for working so hard on your relationship and making such a major decision.....i pray that it goes well for both of you.....sending you love and hugs and lots of support!
You guys are both smart and brave. You both must go though this if he is going to have a live worth living and you must go through this as you are being abused by the situation. Being married is hard enough without having the cards stacked against you, as you do now.
This will take guts but I am sure you both have them. Best of luck, Eric
This is the very best decision for both of you. Keeping you guys in prayer!
Sending my very best wishes, and keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. Mindy, Trey, i am thinking of you both, and want you both to know, that through these difficult times, i am reaching out, and giving you both, big hugs! You both, will make it through this. You both are very strong, and i have complete faith, and believe, that you both will make it through this, and when you both do, you both will be stronger than ever. You both have something very special. You both have eachother, and share a love, a bond, that is so strong, that it\'s unbreakable, and no rough time, will ever come between you both. keep surrounded by love, care, and support, and always remember, all of us here, are thinking of you all, and sending our very best wishes. :)
Trey! i know, you will be alright there! stay strong! keep focused! You can do this! You can overcome these rough times, because you have Mindy, you have family, you have friends, you have a future, and it\'s a wonderful future, because of all the love, care, and support, surrounding you. :)
Mindy! keep smiling angel! :)
your such a strong person Mindy...love you very much. this is the best thing for the both of you. he has to get the help he needs. im always here for you whenever you need me. i wish you both the best outcome possible..your in my thoughts and prayers..
Sendin my love girl!Tell Trey that I am thinking of him,ok? xoxoxoxSteph(ilovefavre)P.S I got my brett favre signature tat today!! it\'s hot! And i will send a pic soon!(I actually let him take a pic of it this time!
What a good plan. It was time for a change. This will be the beginning of hopefully something different for the future for you both. I know the decision is hard. Good luck and God bless. Hugs and prayers, Jennay Tom & Clarke