Hi,..Well,, Im back home from work.. Yes, I made it through another one...I was upset when I left, someone who I consider a friend but question sometimes why I do, called me and really gave me hell.Said, 1-- I should stop dwelling on Carole 2-- I should not have her ashes in the house that I should burry them--< well I was thinking of that for later on, but i can't bring myself to do that right now >.. Is this wrong.... 3- Said I need to get rid of all caroles things,.. says she has pictures only of her husband that died several years ago. Yes, I went through Hell with this friend during caroles illness I would tell her what treatments she was getting and she would be upset with me for doing and allowing treatments, well I was trying to save her life and didnt want to loose her,. but I get the speach that when the nurse told her about this machine they could of used on her husband that she didn;t want to see that, she made her choice not to use it and just let him die. that was not my choice,I wanted them to try to save my little lady whatever could of been done, and I was greatly let down at this place she was in they just let her die...Yes, I feel I got chewed out from my friend, and I was also told I need to just move onward and not think of Carole so much..Well, the boss in training was at the store tonight she is really something I hope she leaves soon but I cant be so lucky,...but I made it through tonight as I said,.. I have an early job to do but got a call tonight that the addon store tomarrow night has been rescheduled.Well, Goodnight Journal and all... Michael
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You follow what your heart tells you, not what you are trying to be pushed into doing.Take care. Hugs-Michele
I don\'t think your friend is much of a friend.There is no timeline as far as when to stop mourning and some people never do.There is also no law that says you cannot keep her ashes forever.My son and his girlfriend have their baby\'s ashes and I think they have no intention of scattering them,but if they do it is up to them.
Some people cannot handle us talking about our loved ones who have passed because it makes THEM feel uncomfortable,but they do not understand that we NEED to talk about them.I think you are just talking to the wrong person.Use us here at DS more often because you do need to talk.It hasn\'t been that long since she left you,and you need to talk.Consider joining a support group where people talk to each other and don\'t mind hearing about Carole because they understand how you feel.
I am so sorry you\'re going through all of this and getting little or no support from the people around you.I wish you the best.
Michael, this is not a friend. I don\'t know what you would call \"it\" but you don\'t need friends like that. What you are doing right now is what we are all doing or have done. Don\'t let anyone tell you what you are doing is wrong. As saige said, try to find a support group. There you will find the support you need and friends. I am sure I will think of my Tina everyday for the rest of my life. Of course you did everything you possibly could for your Carole. That is what anyone who truly has a deep love for someone would do. Find a support group asap. It will help you so much. I sometimes wish all of the folks who are in this group could physically meet at times. What a great group of people. Hugs to you Michael. You are in my prayers.
Carol