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Had our 8 our visit with T yesterday on his pass.  He was allowed to come home but was not allowed (according to the rehab center) to contact any friends - no phone/cell, computer, or to wander off any where.  Hubby ended up taking him up to the hardware store and then for a short trip close to the beach so that they could chat.   I thought I should go but hubby told me to stay home and get done what I had to get done.  Fine.  How could we discuss anything if I am not around, though?    T was a bit stand off-ish with me again and I couldn't figure out if it was something new or something old.  I thought now what?  He didn't verbalize it to my hubby but he did tell me that he was wondering why I didn't want him back home.  I had met with him and his counselor last week and she made a comment that he might be coming home two weeks early because he's doing well at the center but it will depend on how he behaves on home visits.  At the time of the meeting I was not happy with his behavior on our 4 hour visit and couldn't imagine him coming home early.  He didn't get it.  His last visit was fine because we weren't all together the whole time, like last time.  I wonder if my husband set it up that way on purpose?  Whatever.........all I know is I'm not ready...... But it's not about me...