Another great day.  I know T is in a holding pattern but I will take it.  Going to Al anon tonight with the drug counselor friend of mine.  Her son is struggling right now.  He's the same age as my middle guy, 18.  My middle one didn't come home last night and never called.  I figured he was at a friend's house but finally put a call into one of his friends, only to find out he went to a college with a bunch of friends.  We told him that we are done with that scene and then what does he do?  He sneaks!  This is it.  We know he's lost right now .....leaving school in the fall without many friends around...no motivation.....but we need a long chat with him.  Basically, if he pulls that immature crap again.....he's out.  No more.  We're having a hard enough time with the youngest to have to worry about him.  In the meantime....our oldest is doing extremely well in school and with his Christian youth group he volunteers for.  All so different.   Tomorrow I will find out about drug court.  I am putting it in God's hands.  What I wish for him may not be the best for him.  Something told me to push for it......could have been what I should have done?  Time will tell. Oh.....there was another article in the paper about that heroin bust at a neighboring town.  And to think I was indirectly responsible for it.  It was all over the radio, too.  Guess this bust prompted a huge community meeting about drugs and what had happened lately.  I wish more parents would make calls and keep in touch with each other.  I may start something.  I have the support of my friend.  She is interested.    

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It\'s hard to come back home when you\'ve had a taste of making your own rules (good or otherwise). Also, with all the tension with T it is probably ture that he needs an out with friends.....Perhaps it\'s time to help him get a plan to go back and live in the college town? He can be with his friends, busy working at least 2 jobs to make end meet; at some point he may decide that college is looking better and at that time help him out? I guess the other question is does he need as much help as T does with drugs/alchohol? Maybe this is the discussion to have??? Would he go with counseling with you????

I am thinking of you and wishing that both boys would \"find themselves\" and like who they find!!! Take Care!