What a difference when they don't use.  It's been such a long time that I forgot what it's like to be "normal".  Since spending a night in detention, last Thursday,  he's been staying clear of his buddies, at least around here. I understand, from what the assistant principal says, that T also sits with only his girlfriend at lunch. Spending every moment he can with his sweet girlfriend.  My husband told my son that, to him, she's an angel.  I don't know if she's an angel or not, but she certainly is making my son happier.  It feels like she's protecting him.  When friends call he makes an excuse saying he doesn't think he's allowed to have any friends here.  We never said that nor has he even asked us if he could.  I'm so glad he's making excuses.  I am going to cherish this time and enjoy it.    My poor husband is starting to show physical signs of stress.  He's hasn't had this in long time, but when he's stressed, he starts feeling numbness in his face, arms, and legs.  He's had his heart checked out numerous times and it's checked out fine.  I am now worried about him.  He just called me and realized he messed up on picking a date for a business trip.  He arranged it and five people are supposed to go, too.  All along he's been thiinking the trip was on a Thursday, which it was originally, but switched it to Wednesday.  Not good because that's our court date with T.  All I can say, is I'm glad, at least, T is in a good place right now.  My husband doesn't need the extra worry at this time. I picked up another AL ANON night.  A friend, who is also a drug counselor at the school I indirectly got a girl arrested where she works, called me.  My husband's and my name came up in her circle and she thought she would ask me to join her.  Her oldest son played soccer with my middle guy.  I've known her for years but not very well.  The timing couldn't have been more perfect.  I keep praying to God to help me and he is.  He's working through her and others....like you.