I have a "thing" about cursing - I don't lilke it.  T-Man has brought some of that to our home and ,fortunately, he doesn't really do that anymore.  I take that back - he's up from his slumber and just wailed on me.  He's angry because last night my husband wrote him a check for $25.00 to give to his friend so that his friend would buy him a movie ticket.  My husband didn't want to give him cash.  Well, they decided not to go and he stayed home here with his girlfriend.  Well, just now he asked me for the check (I took it out of his pocket last night without him knowing).  Well, he asked for it because they are planning on going to the movies today.  I told him that I would buy the tickets ahead of time and give it to him.  He swore and yelled at me -saying that they might not go anyway.  He's not sure.  Okay....I believe that one.  When he's "sure" I'll buy it for him.  He's lucky I would even consider buying him one considering how he's behaving.  I don't believe he's going to the movies this time.  It's going to be a LONG day.  Even though my husband and I are at a much better place regarding handling our son, I don't feel my husband thinks things like these situations through enough.  He wrote a check to T-Man's supplier for goodness sake!  Yikes!   Anyway.....if I could swear right now......I'd would made anyone blush.  Kidding aside..... I just went through T-Man's criminial records.  Yikes!  Even though we've had them for awhile, I haven't been up to  sorting through and organizing them until now.  I figured I'd better face the music before tomorrow.  Poor guy....he's really racked them up.  He has 3 unruly, 4 misdemeaners, and 7 felonies - all of different degrees.  Some of the felonies look worse on paper than they actually were.  I'll spare you the details.  The last offense took place in 3 months ago and hasn't been caught with anything else since.  All these offenses took place in a four month span when he was at his worst.  I hope that the judge can see that he has improved (although he's still using and breaking curfew) and that he will be accepted into drug court.  He doesn't have any violent crimes and that is one crime the court will not accept into the program.  If you're a religious person or spiritual or if you don't consider yourself either.....but you do pray.....can I ask for some extra prayers?  Specifically.......that T be accepted into drug court.  I know this is what he needs right now.  This will definitely lead to rehab....I know.  This time....it will be the courts who will follow through if he doesn't do what he's supposed to do....... I can only hope......... Tell me I'm wrong.  T wanted to go to his girlfriend's house and wanted a ride.  I told him that the way he treated me I shouldn't take him.  He pretended he didn't remember what happened until I reminded him.  He apologized - saying he was anxious about tomorrow.  I accepted that but I told him I wanted to make sure that her mother was home today and he insisted she is.  I told him I wanted to meet her or talk to her on the phone to make sure.  He had a fit and did damaged to our computer table calling me every name in the book.  Where am I wrong?  Should have I not pushed the envelope and insisted on meeting or talking to her mom?  Of course, I'm the only mom that does that....which probably true considering who he is hanging out with....or should I say "chilling" with.  Sigh......