I'm in Al-Anon and I'm starting to get the group.  I am going to pursue a sponsor because this whole thing is getting bigger than I can handle.  I found a spoon in the basement with some lighters.  He spends some time down there.  His behavior is back (almost) to the way he was this past summer and fall.  Things were looking good there for awhile and now........ He has his court date a week from this Tuesday.  Hopefully then he will have to answer to someone other than us....