T came home past home and city curfew. He wanted to get on the computer and I told him that from now on.....when he comes home past curfew...no computer. I do have to remember to take the key board and hide it, however. I was pretty good at not letting him have it when he would break curfew but then I would lose the connection of knowing what he's doing. Decided that I have a pretty good idea and don't need to know all of the details. Funny that I decided to take the computer privileges away now because (except for last night and last Friday night) he's been coming home before or at curfew every night. I am also angry that he continues to smoke cigs in his room and the basement when I've told him repeatedly to stop it. The consequence was supposed to be -- that we were to take his room door off. Our counselor thought that that wasn't a good idea. I'm glad because I didn't want to do anyway.
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Could you appeal to the safety factor on the cigarettes - using, falls asleep and puts his brothers in jeopardy (not to mention health)? Do you have an outside smoking spot for him or even the garage? Otherwise how about getting one of those air filters for those two rooms to cut down on the smell and residue? Our house rule is that all smokers have to \"use\" outside. However, I do understand that you have to pick your battles carefully!!! Take Care!!!!!!!!!!
I wish that counselor could give you some good ideas as to what TO DO.....