When did it become "acceptable" on a Support Board for a few people to dictate the general "mood" or "atmosphere" of the Board and expect everyone else to follow or agree? Then, Hell breaks loose when you don't agree and express your own opinion in a non-threatening, non-specific to anyone, way.....
This is so frustrating and irritates me to the point of wanting to scream! It's a SUPPORT BOARD and the last time I checked from the many that I've utilized over the years each person on a Support Board is an Individual and has their own OPINION.
So why does there always have to be 1 or 2 people who take offense and act like your picking on them because you've not adopted their negative views???? Support Boards are not a Cult, you don't join and then wait to be brainwashed into thinking the same as everyone else in the group. That mentality is so freaking ridiculous and to someone like me who is highly educated in multiple Professional fields and knows how to use my own mind very well, laughable! I'm tired of it being like this. I'm tired of some people thinking there's a hierarchy on a Support Board and the political theology is a Dictatorship, because it is soooo supposed to be a 180 in the opposite direction, a partnership of people in like-situations supporting each other.
A Support Board is supposed to be a safe place for anyone and everyone to feel safe discussing their issue, their view and their opinion on the subject of that Board, without worrying about negative retribution from those who think they run the atmosphere of it.
I may have a physical body that doesn't work due to MS, Liver Disease, Tumor -Left Kidney, Osteoarthritis, Degenerative Cartilage Disease, Hepatic Steatosis, ALinear Atelectasis w/Tumor Right Lung, Chrondomylasia, Bi-lateral Carpal Tunnel Syndrome, Bi-lateral Tendonitis - Rotator Cuffs, MRSA Carrier w/Flares, and a mind that constantly has to fight against BiPolar Disorder with Severe Suicidal Ideation & Depression. But I have a Brain that allows me to work, think for myself, develop my own ideas, and sure as hell form my own OPINIONS.
I also am very good at reading people and judging their character, think goodness, otherwise all those years at University would really feel like a waste of time and money! Its easy to pick out people who never, NEVER have any positives to say about anything in their life. Everything said is always Negative....and these are usually the people on a Support Board who try to set the tone and get irritated and make a fuss when anyone tries to interject a Positive Opinion.
Oh well, tough! Support Boards are here for everyone to be able to give their opinion on whats happening in their life (for what pertains to that Support Board), and I for one intend to utilize that freedom and will not be stifled by the nay-sayers who want everyone else to suffer along with them in their negativity.
Yes, life is not easy, for me it pretty much sucks 75% of the time, so what? I'm stuck here and I can be stuck here and be miserable 100% of the time, or I can be stuck here and be happy and enjoy my life the 25% of the time that I'm able to get out of bed or off the couch when I'm not in a hospital or the pain is not running my body!
I hope that others would feel the same, because staying negative and pissed at the world 100% of the time only makes physical and mental pain worse, much, much worse.
This is so frustrating and irritates me to the point of wanting to scream! It's a SUPPORT BOARD and the last time I checked from the many that I've utilized over the years each person on a Support Board is an Individual and has their own OPINION.
So why does there always have to be 1 or 2 people who take offense and act like your picking on them because you've not adopted their negative views???? Support Boards are not a Cult, you don't join and then wait to be brainwashed into thinking the same as everyone else in the group. That mentality is so freaking ridiculous and to someone like me who is highly educated in multiple Professional fields and knows how to use my own mind very well, laughable! I'm tired of it being like this. I'm tired of some people thinking there's a hierarchy on a Support Board and the political theology is a Dictatorship, because it is soooo supposed to be a 180 in the opposite direction, a partnership of people in like-situations supporting each other.
A Support Board is supposed to be a safe place for anyone and everyone to feel safe discussing their issue, their view and their opinion on the subject of that Board, without worrying about negative retribution from those who think they run the atmosphere of it.
I may have a physical body that doesn't work due to MS, Liver Disease, Tumor -Left Kidney, Osteoarthritis, Degenerative Cartilage Disease, Hepatic Steatosis, ALinear Atelectasis w/Tumor Right Lung, Chrondomylasia, Bi-lateral Carpal Tunnel Syndrome, Bi-lateral Tendonitis - Rotator Cuffs, MRSA Carrier w/Flares, and a mind that constantly has to fight against BiPolar Disorder with Severe Suicidal Ideation & Depression. But I have a Brain that allows me to work, think for myself, develop my own ideas, and sure as hell form my own OPINIONS.
I also am very good at reading people and judging their character, think goodness, otherwise all those years at University would really feel like a waste of time and money! Its easy to pick out people who never, NEVER have any positives to say about anything in their life. Everything said is always Negative....and these are usually the people on a Support Board who try to set the tone and get irritated and make a fuss when anyone tries to interject a Positive Opinion.
Oh well, tough! Support Boards are here for everyone to be able to give their opinion on whats happening in their life (for what pertains to that Support Board), and I for one intend to utilize that freedom and will not be stifled by the nay-sayers who want everyone else to suffer along with them in their negativity.
Yes, life is not easy, for me it pretty much sucks 75% of the time, so what? I'm stuck here and I can be stuck here and be miserable 100% of the time, or I can be stuck here and be happy and enjoy my life the 25% of the time that I'm able to get out of bed or off the couch when I'm not in a hospital or the pain is not running my body!
I hope that others would feel the same, because staying negative and pissed at the world 100% of the time only makes physical and mental pain worse, much, much worse.
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Very very well said and AMEN sista!!
Big big hugs and know that I appreciate you !
xoxo
Gaye
Hey you. Well stated. Keep being you. I get aggravated by the people co-signing other\'s BS on the board. Not supportive at all! I\'ve had to not reply on it because I don\'t want to be banned so I go don\'t comment. Anyhoo, I agree with you said 100%
you schould be able to have your Owen opinion .......especualy in here ...so long as it does ..not ..deliberately hurtful to someone else ...................................I think that some of these people that are very negative ..are also very negative and there living arengments are not good ..for then ..and they need to put a voice to that as well ......I .am .not sure that they want others to .be the same only to be understood ...and that is what we all want here is to be understood ...this schould be a safe place weather you are so depressed ...you can\'t even imagian anything positive or wether you are working on being positive .....you might have to not read these negative people\'s posts .....unless ..they are ...ment to atack you .....and than you can talk to the pepper man ......and he will look into it ...he is our go to gie .................................you are right in your last paragraph ........there are some groups in this group that others have made ...you could find a positive group there you might like ......what things are you interested in ....I will see what I can find .....I know that I need one group like that ..because I can\'t always be on the depreshion bord ..................take very good care of your self ....God bless