life sucks had a bad weekend.i don't know how to express my feeling to my family.my daughter said they won't talk about justin cause it makes me cry.maybe so but i have to grieve i guess they grieve in a different way.i can't belive i lost my son my life has been destoryed. anyway thats how i feel.God i can't be strong and you know that.just take one step at a time,i'm kinda sick of taking a new step day after day,honestly it doesn't work for me.jfm24,vicki
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I am so sorry for your pain Vicki.I know you are strong and that you can make it-you have made it past the six month mark and I know you can keep on going(one step at a time is really how we all do it in our lives and yes, sometimes it seems like a slow process and we get sick of it, but we all just have to keep on trying). Just try to remember the good times you had with Justin and think of all the good things you have in your life(your children and your friends and family). I know it is hard but try to focus on positve, if you can.:0]
Here is a poem you can give to your daughter so that maybe they can understand that you need to talk about Justin, and that they are not making you cry. You are crying inside all the time.
REMEMBERING
by Elizabeth Dent
Go ahead and mention my child.
The one that died, you know.
Don\'t worry about hurting me further.
The depth of my pain doesn\'t show.
Don\'t worry about making me cry.
I\'m already crying inside.
Help me to heal by releasing
The tears that I try to hide.
I\'m hurt when you just keep silent,
Pretending he didn\'t exist.
I\'d rather you mention my child,
Knowing that he has been missed.
You asked me how I was doing.
I say \"pretty good\" or \"fine\".
But healing is something ongoing.
I feel it will take a lifetime.