My husband is being a jerk, again.  He is mad because my son's room was messy.  He has us cleaning the whole house today.  He made part of this mess, why is he punishing us?  My son has special needs so he has a hard time understanding where to put stuff.  I work hard trying to take care of this family, too.  I have to listen to my son whine and nag.  I have to listen to my husband complain and whine about everything yet he does almost nothing to change the situation.  He rather wallow in his own misery.  Meanwhile, I get more and more stressed by the poor condition of this family.  My husband won't seek any kind of help.  I don't what to do.