25th Wedding Anniversary - Worst

I planned a trip (as he didn't seem like he cared).  Got sick the night before and the day traveling to the location (felt like crap).  Next day our anniversary - was okay until we were walking in the mall and I veered towards a jewelry store (thought to my self - maybe we can get new rings to signify our love - new start) well he made the comment we don't need that useless stuff.  I was furious - yes I didn't say anything but you would think on your anniversary your wife would want some kind of jewelry.  He hadn't given me a card or anything (and neither did I give him anything as I ran out of time and a part of me also said from Valentines he didn't get me anything either - not to).  Was acting childish but he use to get me cards/flowers, etc.  Nothing.  Grant it the day before New Years he handed me my Christmas gift and said he forgot to give it to me and buy the way I am moving out - what a present.  I said fine but then this means nothing - the gift.  Maybe that had something to do with - but you don't do that to someone.  Not sure if he is still seeing the other woman - if he is - then he can have her - as I have told him to his face.  So continued with our anniversary I was mad the rest of the trip, we argued alot - he was expecting sex everyday for me to initiate it.  Sorry ain't going to happen.  He thinks only of himself, I don't ever tell him no that he can't buy something - he chooses not to.  I never tell him he doesn't something the wrong way (except the affair) - I always tell him he looks good and whatever he fixes or makes that it looks great.  He tells me when I don't do something right, or do we really need that, or that is not the correct way of doing something - irritates me and I have told him and then says fine I won't say anything at all.  He acts like a child sometimes.  Don't know how much longer I can go on.  I need someone to love me, tell me I look great or whatever I have done that I did a good job.  Need someone to be honest and kind.  He use to be this but since that other woman came in between us - he has changed.   He says so have I - yes I have as my heart has been ripped out and and no he doesn't ask me to change anything but if he would and the other shoe was on the other foot, I would do whatever it took to make my spouse happy.  Sorry so long - had to vent.