Hey Dad, how are things with you today?
For me its round 3452312335 of Mum moving, but this time she is saying she is going to sign an " intent to vacat" form today. So its going to be a shit fight from now on. She rang me 3 times yesterday, left messages that made no sense at all. I worked 7am till 6pm, so I didn't even ring her back, I bet she will have the shits with me today, but I really couldn't of talked to her last night, my mind and body were a mess. Anyway, the long and the short of what I could gather was she is going to sign a vacat notice today, and move to someplace, where I'm not sure...she is just pushing the limits right now. She is not well enough to move, she is very forgetful, and very nervous...all in all even though she is not happy where she is I believe she should stay there at least until she feels a bit better. So, its on Dad, who knows what she will do next!
Apart from that.....I'm working my bum off for little reward or thanks, Mum makes me feel horrible and useless, most of the time she reminds me of how far away I am and how I'm no help at all to her. Well I'm sorry, I will not put my life on hiold, give up my job, move to a place where I won't find work because there are no jobs there, and risk my relationship with Chris just to keep her happy! I would love to help her out, so long as she was being sensible about it and realistic about what she can and can't do as well as at least try to make a go of it there rather than always find fault and complain about little things that really have nothing to do with how she lives or what she does.
Oh, I'm having a real bitch session today Dad, guess I'm getting to the point of exploding, or burning out..either way I have had enough... I won't keep putting up with her telling me shit.
Sorry to whinge and moan at you, but you always could settle her down and get everyone together again. Wish you were here to do whatever it was you did... we are all to headstrong to even meet halfway right now!
love ya heaps Dad, miss you more every day
always and forever your little but grumpy Margy
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What a heck of a time you are going through, dearest friend.
Your mum is giving you grief and your job is the pits right now. Hey, the summer tourists will be gone soon and things will settle down again. At some stage, your mum will realise that she is going to have to cope - she has to.
You can\'t put your life on hold, and you can\'t live her life for her. Only she can do that.
Don\'t feel guilty, you have no reason to. You have done your best, just as your dad told you to. That is enough.
Take care of you and Chris. First and foremost.
Love and hugs, Margaret. Prayers and love.
Mary