never mind. he is in jail. This makes me feela little better cus the message he left said he was sorry and that he will be out soon. DWI. i am a little torn. I read somewhere that if you base a relationship on just loving a person you will never make it work. that they have to be like you. and the more like you they are the more you will grow to love them. Im not saying I love him but I am attatched. I guess I have till April to figure this out. Whether or not to invest anymore time in him.
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Waste of time dear. I spent years trying to love a drunk, tried to accept it but all it did was ruin my younger years. I even tried joining him in drinking, but that got me nothing but hangovers and empty wallets and kids I was neglecting. I still drink, don;t get me wrong, but it will never get me put in jail. Better things to do, better men out there...who wants to wait around for someone or worse yet become an enabler?
am i an enabler if I just care for him? He lost his car. So he cant drive... for five years legally, noone will lend him a ride. But my brother went thru 9 years with out a license, due to alcohol. And I dont feel he is a drunk. we are all the same. we all enjoy our cocktails and my dave guy took it a step too far. My brother took it 6 steps too far. where does the line come that it is a drunk. I hate that I am basing a lot of my feelings on physical feelings...but I am. I am not just talking about sex either. Its a culmination of interactions that make me giddy with the anticipation of just neighboring him at my breakfast bar again. the eyes, the hands. the way he knows what i need at the moment. I cant relate the alcohol to that.