I had to tell my family. I take that back. I told my mom and my sister. Not at the same time. Mom cried. Sister said she was praying. Mom told brother and dad. Brother offered a lot of strange and not so helpful advice like "He was prolly cheatin on you anyways. I dont know one guy who can go without p***y for that long" Dad was angry... dissapointed. They are from a different world. He told his family. His mom bout me happy Bunny stationary. I should call to thank her. I just cant now. I have been drinking a lot. By the time he got home from work last nite I was sloshed. I know I have a little problem there but until he is gone I am just trying to separate myself from him which is hard cus he wont stop touching me and talking sweet things to me. By the end of this weekend my entire extended family will know, by mom's pace. Is it embarassing to anyone else? I am very ashamed right now.
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What the heck are you ashamed of? You brothers comments were just that... comments because men as a rule don\'t know how to say their true feelings, so they say the first thing that pops into their head, which is usually the WRONG thing, lol. he probably was at a loss of words and would have been better off to not say anything. And parents... well they want what\'s best for their children (at least most of them do). It\'s hard to call it quits on an relationship, but sometimes it\'s a decision that has to be made, and once done, a huge relief comes over a person. You need to take it one day at a time, and deal with it that way. Take care girlfriend, i\'m around for you. Deb :0)
Geez, I hadn\'t read this. Are you really OK? This is so painful but more than that confusing! Why do you think he keeps coming to you? I think the drinking ...it is a depressant. And can you really think clearly? I understand you\'re looking for relief but I\'m afraid it\'s making you feel worse. You\'re a strong, i independent woman. Remember who you are! It sounds as though your family is as confused as anything,
I know it\'s easy for me to say but if you can, please try not to drink. I don\'t think it\'s making you feel good about yourself. And whatever feelings you need to go through, you need to go through them. I don\'t think there\'s an out. And in the end, what you really want is clarity and that\'s impossible if you\'re drunk. I think you need to behave in such a way that you can be as proud of yourself as possible. Be brave.
You should be proud you are a stong enough person to do what you are doing. Nobody has the right to judge you except God. You should be happy for yourself and proud you can do this. We are all behind you!!
I am here for you if you need to talk... thinking of U ....
oops. I tried to add a comment and screwed up. I have been trying to calm down the drinking. Limiting myself just to relaxing. Not tipsy. This weekend I was successful at that. My family is big into drinking... very james bond and cocktail hours and stuff. So its kinda nature for me. But I am trying to lose weight too. Thanks to you guys for the kindness.