25 years

Hubby and I celebrated our 25th anniversary last night - dinner with good friends.  Nothing fancy - no Hawaii like we said we'd do at this occasion but that's okay.  This was the first rainy day in 25 years, however! But - it just couldn't remain that way -being that it never rains on that day - so it cleared up with sunshine letting us enjoy dinner outside on the patio. I feel badly, guilty, but I just couldn't say yes.  The suicide prevention group called me and asked if I would sit for 5 hours up at a local shopping place and try to get people to register for the walk. This is the first time I turned them down.  I have things to do that day AND later was planning on taking that time to prepare my lessons.  Yes - I'm going to be teaching again.  So...... I don't know.  Boundaries - I know.  I just have a difficult time with that one - especially since they are desperate.  I guess it was announced in the paper and Internet that this event was going to take place at various locations.  Guess they should have cleared it with me before doing that.  I think I threw them off.  Who knows - I might cave in to do a part of it.  Not sure. 

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Congratulations on the wedding milestone!!

No is a good answer! Think of it this way, they can\'t get more people involved if they continue to rely on the same people...now they will have to reach out to others. Also, 5 hours is an unreasonable amount of time to sit at a booth for any volunteer -- 2 hours max. I hope you will stick to your decision and focus on the things you have planned. I wonder if you had plans with a friend if you would feel guilty about the choice...consider yourself as that valued friend that you have a date with and keep the appointment with yourself!

TAKE CARE!!!!
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Congrats on the 25th anniversary!! Nice that the sun came out and you had an enjoyable evening celebrating your anniversary! I know you keep yourself very busy, and have started teaching again. 4 year olds? We talked once about this awhile back, and I\'m also teaching 4 year olds. Busy 2 weeks getting things in order at the school and back-to-school night was last night. Anyway, today was class orientation and tomorrow we have first day of class. I\'ve got 7 girls and 5 boys. They seemed happy when they left today after orientation. Considering how busy you are, you need to say No. It\'s important to focus on your wishes and goals. You\'ve got a huge committment coming up and it\'s a very important one! They can ALL be so very important, but there are other people who can step up to the plate! Love, D.
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Congradulations on your anniversary...25 years is wonderful! I think your \"no\" answer was the right one. 5 hours..holy smokes...I have volunteered for a lot of things but that\'s a very long time and I don\'t think very fair to ask of one person. Remember you can only do so much to help others out..don\'t forget you need to take care of yourself first above all else or you won\'t be able to help others out anymore.