I'm not feeling well at all! I don't think that this guy that I'm dating really cares about me as much as I care about him. The thing is, sometimes I feel like I love him and other times I feel like I just care about him. I'm so confused. We don't really talk that much anymore because he's always quiet now and doesn't seem to be that happy to see me anymore. I feel like there's no stability in whatever we have. I just bought a car. He took me to the dealer to buy one and that made me feel like he cared about me. But afterwards I asked him if he wanted to go out and he said "no". That really made me feel rejected. When I confronted him about us, he said that he wanted to take things slow with us and that it was too soon to consider me and him in a relationship together. I know he's right. Deep in my heart I know he's right. But sometimes I feel as if I already love him. Other times, I don't. I've only known him a month in person and two months online (which I hardly even count). Evensince our intimate encounters, he's slowly showing less and less affection and he's more quiet around me now. Does this mean he's lost interest!? Damn, I feel like it's my fault. I should've held off. It all started with a kiss and eversince then it's been hard to not think about him or want him around. It's like I crave him constantly, always wanting him around me. And when he leaves me, it's fine at first, but then I start to feel really sad that he's not around and it gets in the way of doing what I need to do (i.e. homework, chores). I hate feeling like this, especially since I hardly know anyone around here. It makes me wonder if I did the right thing by moving out here. But really, I didn't like living at my old home. I'm always alone. Always thinking of him. And now I have noone out here. We went out clubbing with his friends last night. It was at the top of this 30 story building overlooking Waikiki, but by being around his friends I felt so out of place! He told me that he wanted me to see how he is around his friends because he said it's part of the "getting to know him" process. I think he's right on that one, but his friends seem to not welcome me. One of them kept staring down at me and I felt really weird, but I was just happy just being there with him so I decided to have a drink...and another! BAD IDEA! I ended up having a small panic attack!!! I told him that I needed to get out onto the bottom floor to get some air and we did. Thank God I felt so much better! Despite that, it still seems like he's not that into me. He's more quiet, and not as enthused to see me, even today when he took me to buy a car. I want to cut it off before I get hurt even more. I feel like I ruined a good thing by getting too intimate with him when we weren't even together. But I'm scared because I feel that I love him. I don't get him. When I confronted him, he told me that he wants to not be scared to let me into his heart. Why did he tell me before that I "completed him" and that he feels so lucky to have me? Why this???
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well sweetie,i know one thing if you really love this guy you will know it.I felt the same way about my husband,i thought do i really love him,then it was as clear as day,yes i did.I am so sorry you had that panic attack.Some guys will tell you anything to get what they want,but he may not be like that.He is lucky to have YOU in his life.You are a beautiful girl,and anyone would be proud to have you.Never let anyone tell you any different.How old is he?If you do not care if i ask? He needs to make up his mind!To really know if a guy is the real deal,you need to not get so intimate right away,you need to know how he really feels.I pray if you do love this guy,that he will return your love.sweetie,my hearts aches for you.Having all these questions,and there he is,one day one way the next who knows.guys can be a pain in the you know what! Ask him why he is scared to let you into his heart? Has he been hurt before? Please sweetie,make sure you go to school and make good grades,do not let anyone take that away from you.Know sweetie that i love you and you are special to me.I hate to see you hurt,as a mom would hate to see her daughter get hurt.You are in my prayers and thoughs.I am sending you love and hugss sweetie,love you SHEA.......................
The observations you are making appear to indicate that there is not much of a relationship taking place on which to build something with a good foundation. The response from his peers is also an indication of the choices he makes. You want to be loved, you deserve to be loved, and with some reflection and prayer you\'ll find what you are looking for. You have a wonderful opportunity to meet new people, take your time, get to know what others enjoy, bless others with your kindness, and allow Our Almighty Father to work out the rest for you. I pray and ask to Our Lord Jesus, to look after this daughter of the Most High God in guiding her towards all things good, for those are the gifts that you desire for Your Children, I give you thanks for watching over her, and ask that you listen to her prayers, in the Name Above All Names I ask and pray to Jesus, Amen!