Gosh, I was so pissed yesterday evening!
I went out with some of these new friends from school. They seemed cool when I met them during the first weeks of the semester, but last night,when all of us girls went out to dinner, one of them was just constantly picking on me during conversation! I was talking about the weather and sarcastically and jokingly said,"It looks really dark and cloudy outside. Maybe god is mad at us" and one of the girls said, "omg! I can't believe you just created a whole religious scenario out of the weather! That came out of nowhere!"
That freakin' pissed me off!...It sounded like she was criticizing me for joking like that and made me feel really stupid!!...I felt like she disrespected me and my character!..I can't stand it when certain people do that!..I feel insulted!..I really do!
Then right away, after she made that comment, she says,"oh! I'm sorry! I can't believe I said that!..I meant to say that it was "cute how you set up that whole scenario about god n stuff."
The whole evening this chick would throw lil comments like that here and there at me!...Wtf, am I a sounding board for criticism?? I felt like a verbal punching bag where she felt like she could just throw any demeaning comment at me and I wouldn't say anything!!! And I didn't cuz I didn't want everyone who was with us to feel uncomfortable if I showed how mad I was.The other girls are cool tho and didn't say anything demeaning.
I don't believe I'm a sensitive ass for feeling this way. I seriously felt like she disrespected who I am. I mean, the way I am is the way I am. I didn't harm anyone and I would NEVER criticize someone about them (unless they ask for my opinion or advice). I thought she was a cool person till this incident happened, and something inside me was telling me not to hang out with them last night.
I went out with some of these new friends from school. They seemed cool when I met them during the first weeks of the semester, but last night,when all of us girls went out to dinner, one of them was just constantly picking on me during conversation! I was talking about the weather and sarcastically and jokingly said,"It looks really dark and cloudy outside. Maybe god is mad at us" and one of the girls said, "omg! I can't believe you just created a whole religious scenario out of the weather! That came out of nowhere!"
That freakin' pissed me off!...It sounded like she was criticizing me for joking like that and made me feel really stupid!!...I felt like she disrespected me and my character!..I can't stand it when certain people do that!..I feel insulted!..I really do!
Then right away, after she made that comment, she says,"oh! I'm sorry! I can't believe I said that!..I meant to say that it was "cute how you set up that whole scenario about god n stuff."
The whole evening this chick would throw lil comments like that here and there at me!...Wtf, am I a sounding board for criticism?? I felt like a verbal punching bag where she felt like she could just throw any demeaning comment at me and I wouldn't say anything!!! And I didn't cuz I didn't want everyone who was with us to feel uncomfortable if I showed how mad I was.The other girls are cool tho and didn't say anything demeaning.
I don't believe I'm a sensitive ass for feeling this way. I seriously felt like she disrespected who I am. I mean, the way I am is the way I am. I didn't harm anyone and I would NEVER criticize someone about them (unless they ask for my opinion or advice). I thought she was a cool person till this incident happened, and something inside me was telling me not to hang out with them last night.
Replies
i don\'t think you should feel bad about hanging out with friends. So one girl made you feel upset, forget her. the others repected you, right? The thing is that all people respond to remarks concerning God and religion in different ways. I would say that she probably just didn\'t know how to take you because she doesn\'t know you, thus she completely misunderstood your remark and overreacted to it. Some people are more sensitive to remarks concerning God than others. Some just don\'t want to hear it. she is probably one of those kinds of people. Just ignore it and forget her, you shouldn\'t feel bad or change who you are for anyone. Anyway, hope you have a better day, take care.
You have an opportunity to talk with her again, about what she believes, thru the love you show her, she may be able to want what you have in Christ Jesus. The Lord bless you!
seems like there\'s always one buzzkill in every get together, right? Just call her BK from now on and never tell her why! Maybe that\'ll keep her trap zipped.
Oh sweetie, I\'m sorry that b*tch ruined your night. I know how hard it\'s been to put yourself out there and do this stuff, and then she just reinforced why we hide in our rooms! That REALLY makes me mad that she would act that way. I would wager 100 to 1 that she felt threatened by you and was trying to turn attention back to herself. Not that that makes it any easier to bear. I\'m so sorry... here\'s a HUGE hug from me for everything. I\'m very, very proud of you that you went out and did it despite your inner voice.
Loads of love and hugs! Candy
there\'s an old saying that if you are the subject of conversation or criticism then you are thought about, it may be negative, or jealousy but, you are noticed and thought about.