I cant belive it has been a month since all this happened, I have been soo buzy, going back to work, taking care of sick babies, going to therapie ..... I hardly have time to come here anymore.Well things are better, my H and I are trying to work things out, it seemed unimaginable at first but I think I see a little light at the end of the tunnel, just a little one but i think there is a chance to work things out. Therapie has been a huge help, it helps me see what happened and in my H case that it was not even really about me at all, it was all about him beeing F..... up and he has a lot of things to work through.He is trying super hard and he is turning back into the man I fell in love with once (that does not mean I dont fully expect him to turn back into the a hole any min.)I do think we are taking the right steps to recovery wich I am still not sure if we can recover from this...I still have nightmares about the two of them and I have a lot of questions but I think this is making me a stronger more independent person funny how that works? I am learning that my feelings count and not to always put myself on the back burner and that I need to not always be afraid of hurting other people and stand up for what I belive is right, and to trust my instincts.She has been trying to get in touch with me over the last few weeks and when I would not aswer she resorted to the kids wanted my kids to have a sleepover...crazy women! I had to tell her that our kids can no longer be friends and to please stop texting me so then she told me I was selfish and a bad mother, the nerve...it pissed me off but I let it go and did not respond.