okay not as ready to move on as I thought I was.....been hanging out with this sweet guy I know ....last night was any other night stopped by his place, said hey to his dog (I think it's the dog that I agreed to work with on training that kept me focus cause I didn't see this coming......when I got ready to leave he gave me a hug...no big deal he's a good friend and has hugged me before......then OMG he leans in to kiss me and I freak out!! Nope not ready...went home and cried all night!!
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awwwww, one day you\'ll be ready. I hate when the guys move too fast, it spoils everything. Hang in there. Nothing wrong with waiting!!!!!
Same thing happened to me. I started trying to date and the guy was super nice, everything I was looking for and I just couldn\'t accept him. He was to nice and kind to me. Not used to that. Decided I still need to work on myself. Hopefully one day I can forget about the other guy and move on. It\'s so freakin hard though. We will get there.......have faith QueenLou!
My counselor told me that we need to retrain our brains. Our brains are not used to being treated nicely so when we are, it causes our wall (around our little hearts) to go sky high. I\'m not really sure how to retrain my brain, but I know I need to learn how. For some reason men paying attention to me makes me want to run the other way...........right back into the arms of the man who totally destroyed my heart and soul and I know that\'s not going to happen because he left and will never love me like I love him. So I need to buck up and change the way I think, but how?????? I have a book of affirmations that I try and read from daily so that helps and I have fun around men in groups, but one on one? It scares me to death, even when they are patient and understanding. Then people tell me to go ahead and date, that that is a good way to forget my ex. I\'ll keep you posted, still on the fence about dating.