paul is a wonderful person and i love him but he is severly codependant and controled me. i noticed my personality changing and accepting poor treatment. paul was putting more into the relationship than he wanted and then being angry with me. it makes perfect sence; no wonder i liked it so much he was giveing me too much of him.  when i met paul i was emotionaly and financialy independant. today im dependantly financialy and emptionaly what a deal in 5 years everything i worked emotionaly and financialy for is wiped out.  now what do i do how do i reclaime both emotionaly and finanacial independance again. emotional will we easy but finalcially will be more of a challenge