off the pity pot, talked to paul it was  almost enjoyable he is doing good, goes for eye surgery wed, bruce will take him; bruce is a positive person and that count for a lot. just said a prayer for paul ,love him so much but have detached from him as his wife just want to be his friend now. but need to have other friends also just someone to talk to would be great. got divorce papers last night and that upset me for awhile. its ok the date is january 14. feel good with this. marriage is horrible and friends was wonderful. one can wish