One of my major goals this summer is to not let my mom affect me so much. She used to make me so angry I would cry and shake and it was just awful. I'm going to try really hard to not stoop to her level and to just be the bigger person. I don't want to fight anymore but I don't want her to walk all over me. Its a hard balance to find but I need to try.
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It\'s easier than it most likely sounds... never be afraid to just walk away.
Yes, it\'s a very hard balance to find when someone, who knows you better than any other, has your buttons to push. You are going to have to find some new, unexplored traits for yourself. Not necessarily reinvent yourself, but develop some new tricks...be a little unpredictable, from a good perspective. You need to find a place, whereby you will not crumble to mom\'s demands...yet, not lose your prosocial aspect either. There is an old adage that says, \"Never argue with an idiot. They will just drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience\". I am not saying anything bad about your mom...I don\'t know her...but, it\'s a good slogan that has worked for me. If you want to be Presidential, act Presidential. Assume the role of the adult here.