My baby has hydrops too. I'm 24 weeks, will be 25 weeks in two more days. At 17 weeks they found the cystic hygroma and did the amnio. At 20 weeks they found pleural effusions and fluid over the abdomen and referred me to a specialist three hours away. At 22 weeks the specialist said the baby has hydrops, the prognosis wasn't good, there was nothing he could do and sent us to discuss preparing for the loss of our baby girl. At 23 weeks back at my normal doctor we discussed a birthing plan and all the tests came back that our baby girl had a normal karyotype. No idea what is causing the lymphatic fluid block now more tests to check for infections. This week her heart is strong with no issues, her heart rate is at 146, I feel her move daily and she is still growing but so is the fluid. Next week at our weekly ultrasound if all is ok they will give me a steroid injection and we will finalize the birth plan with neonatology. The big question on the table other than intervention and life saving measures for the baby is am I ok with a vertical c section or not. My husband doesn't want my life or the lives of future children put at risk, so it's very hard for us to decide. We are 30 and this is our first child.  I honestly don't know how I feel about ever being pregnant again but I'm sure I'm biased right now. We cancelled any plans for a baby shower, won't be registering for baby items and won't be preparing a place for the baby. All I have is a tiny stuffed pink dinosaur I bought her early on and embarrassingly I sleep with it at night. I've been dealt a lot of difficult times in my life and my marriage, everything meant to tear a couple apart has been put on our shoulders. We've survived two Iraq combat tours, mental illness, depression, combat injuries leaving my husband 100% VA disabled, brain injuries, separation, bankruptcy, infidelity and I recently lost my father. This current hardship makes all of those pale in comparison and it's a struggle every day not to cry when no one is watching. Every day I get a little stronger, a little better-where I can often tell my story without crying. Why isn't that people have to ask how is baby? I know the question is coming right after they ask how I'm doing. It's hard working for a non profit organization where we have tons of volunteers and wounded warrior families who care about me and the baby too. Last week I went all week doing just fine, didn't cry at work or at the ultrasound. It was the final appointment of the week, Thursdays afternoon fetal echo that for some reason had me getting tears eyed before the doctor even entered the room.